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I had a terrible habit to blame….

Blame other people…

Blame my circumstances….

Blame my “bad luck”

Blame the person who is driving slowly in front of me when I am late

Blame the car park that was too tight because I am such a bad driver to park the car…

Ya know how it goes right?

You have a habit to blame and you blame everything…

It is easy…

It makes you feel you are right….

And the world is wrong…

But when I made a decision to take full responsibility of my life…

I had to undo the “blaming” habit…

And in every situation I started asking myself questions like:

“What can I learn here?”

“Is this happening with me because I need to see something that I couldn’t see?”

Taking responsibility is a little more challenging…

It requires practice….

It requires discipline and persistence…

These are the main lessons I learned when I start taking full responsibility of my life

Taking responsibility empowers you even when it hurts…

Blaming leaves your powerless…

When you take responsibility, you can change anything in your life because you are in control…

Blaming makes you feel you can’t change anything…

Taking responsibility is a practice that gives you energy…

Blaming is a practice that drains your energy…

Taking responsibility of where you are at and who you are is an important step towards changing your life but again it is a practice and habit.

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get where you want to go. No one else” Les Brown

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Fear is stopping you from living

“𝙁𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙙𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝, 𝙞𝙩 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚”

When the pastor asked me what do you think it is going to happen if you die?

I was sobbing…

I had so much fear inside my head to leave my kids…

My husband…

To leave my life…

And everything I wanted to live…

As I imagined my funeral day…

𝘔𝘺 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘣𝘪𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴

𝘍𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭

𝘉𝘰𝘺𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴, 𝘨𝘪𝘳𝘭𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴, 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴

𝘞𝘦𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴

Without me…

I answered the question:

𝙉𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙜𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙛 𝙄 𝙙𝙞𝙚

My kids, my husband would be sad but they would need to keep living…

As I left the pastor’s officeI felt free…

It was exactly what I needed to hear…

Maybe a little tough for some but for me was divinely presented by the pastor…

As God presented each step in my journey to healing…

𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗱𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴…

Instead….

I was going to live each day to the full….

𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨…

𝘛𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘺….

𝘛𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺…

𝘛𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴….

𝘞𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘮𝘦…

𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘭𝘦𝘧𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 6 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵…

All of that baggage and beliefs…

Came with me everywhere I went…

And it got me sick….

These days when I have a stressful day, a difficult conversation, a challenging time….

I remember the days I couldn’t even get out of bed….

What an amazing gift to live again….

and go through challenges again…

𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚….

𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙪𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙖𝙞𝙣…

𝙏𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙗𝙖𝙜𝙜𝙖𝙜𝙚….

𝙏𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙝𝙮𝙨𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙚 (𝙮𝙚𝙨 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙄 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙖𝙡𝙠 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙚𝙭𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙮)

𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙪𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙙𝙖𝙮 (𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙪𝙣𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙙𝙖𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙝𝙮𝙨𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙗𝙤𝙙𝙮)

Instead

𝙈𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙖 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚…

𝘽𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙥𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙞𝙩…

𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙜𝙪𝙞𝙙𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙘𝙠…

𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙥𝙨 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙜𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨…

𝘽𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙞𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙒𝙄𝙇𝙇 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩….

Not in a million years I would have thought I would be at the best shape in my life after cancer treatment

Not in a million years I thought I would have my own business helping people to change their lives….

It all started with a decision…

A decision to live a life that I wanted….

On my terms…

And a decision to doing the work every day….

Everything that was required to get there and beyond…

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Why You Can’t Change Your Habits

This is a tough question right!

It makes us feel inadequate, less than…

It makes us feel we are a failure and a disappointment to ourselves and others…

Part of the problem is that behind every intention to change, there is an underlining unconscious fear and commitment to protect the ego..

to stay the same….

We want to open ourselves up but deep down we fear that the person on the otherwise will see ourselves in a different light, will judge us…

That deep desire to protect us wins because it is primal and it has always been there…

We do everything in our day-to-day lives to avoid pain and to create pleasure…

Going to uncomfortable places, getting out of our comfort zone and shinning a light into our darkness doesn’t fall into these 2 categories…

Avoiding pain or create pleasure…

In my journey to healing myself and helping others to heal, I believe there is one simple thing that discern the person who can overcome that and the person who can’t:

The person who can overcome that is the one who can sit with their pain, their uncomforting feeling of whatever they went through, whoever they have become and wherever they are at in life

But going to that place is not easy….

And it is not for everyone…

And when we want to go there by ourselves….

Our ego grows bigger and stop us from going to that painful place…

When we work with someone who can guide us through it by shedding a light into our darkness…

finding our blind spots…

Things are easier, you achieve what you desire faster and you create the life you want without all the baggage you have been carrying around.

You always have options though…

You can keep trying it at your own peace, go on another strict life style diet, watching free videos on social media, reading books and trying to figure out how to implement things…

or

You can work with someone who has done it – someone who has proven results and someone who has a simple and efficient strategy

If you are:

Sick and tired of living a life that is unfulfilled

Physically stressed and exhausted

Ready to be ruthlessly honest to yourself

Willing to get out of comfort zone

I would love to chat with you:

“Ask for help, not because you are weak, but because you want to remain strong”

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Living with and beyond cancer

After my cancer diagnosis at 38 years old, I knew I needed to act quickly…I needed to change every aspect of my life if I wanted to live a long life.

Turning up to chemotherapy wasn’t going to cut the mustard…I needed to do a lot more than that…

Cancer recurrence is real…and after you have had it…that little voice on the back of your mind is always trying to play with you….

Nobody told me I needed to do anything other than turning up to chemotherapy…in fact doctors told me I was going to be tired and I wasn’t going to be able to do much during treatment…treatment was going to last at least 6 months – mine lasted 7.5 months with the delays.

I decided I wasn’t going to sit around for 7.5 months

I started with changing my physical body, changing my diet and introducing exercise. Very quickly I knew that I needed to do more…so I started taking every piece of my life a part so I could heal completely: in and out.

I once met a cancer survivor who had also done the inner work as I did. We were talking about how many people try avoiding the inner work…she then said…

“They avoid it because it is HELL”

Yes it was HELL…to open up, to feel vulnerable, to sit with my pain even though I thought I had safely placed that inside me as deep as I could…it needed to come out…when it did…I felt I vomited out all that pain. I couldn’t believe I had lived like I did for so long…in fear, in pain, prisoner of my own story, my own believes.

My husband once said ” We have spent our lives up to now to trying to conform, to fit in. We are now trying to get rid off everything we have done to fit in so we can find who we really are.”

As I lived in different countries and travelled around the world, I always tried to fit in but it wasn’t until recently that I discovered that it is not a matter of fitting in, it is a matter of finding who I am regardless of where I am, it is been content with who I am regardless of what it is around me.

When you make a decision to take your life a part to discover who you are, you embark on a beautiful journey of self discovery. Even with all the pain that I had to relive and redefine, my self discovery journey was the biggest gift I received from cancer.

Life is all about the meaning you give to things…how can you redefine the meaning to whatever it is happening in your life right now?

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The secret of happiness is freedom

When I was ready to get back to work after my cancer treatment, I was lucky enough to be able to work part-time hours from home.

My employer was incredibly supportive and I will be forever grateful for it.

I don’t think anything can prepare you for what is like to go back to “normal life” after a cancer diagnosis.

You, your life, your body at times, your world and your reality have changed but nothing else around you have.

You as a person have gone through a life changing event but when you get back to “normal” life everybody’s life is still the same.

As I slowly got used to my new normal again, getting back to my previous role was part of my healing.

I felt I was getting back to my old self and that came with lots of positive things: being able to actually function in a professional environment again, having a brain remembering things and functioning properly (chemo brain is a real thing and I never thought I was going to be able to remember and retain things again)

but it left me thinking….what now? Is this really me? Does this really fit with what I want for my new life? Can I get back to where I left of before cancer?

People can suffer from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) after a cancer diagnosis and it is only fair to say you stop to reevaluate your whole life after going through something so intense.

Deep down I found really hard to let go the old version of myself, I felt guilty that my employer had been so good to me…

But I also knew that recruitment is a stressful gig, people expect you to be on 24/7 as you are dealing with a pretty important part of their lives, their job, their money…

To be honest I was scared to get back into it…what if I get too stressed again and the cancer comes back? What if I stop looking after myself because I am constantly working and the cancer comes back?

After trying for a while I just couldn’t…. There was a little voice inside me sending me to a different direction… in search for something more….I felt deep down I needed to do something more meaningful.

But how do you leave a job without knowing what to do after going through a major health crisis?

In addition to that, I had also worked on a pretty strict health plan for myself that I followed and still do since cancer: I exercise daily, I meditate, I eat healthily (everything is home made) and I go to bed early.

And all of that takes time and effort…any additional stress or change wasn’t ideal just after what I had just gone through.

So in search for answers and a more meaningful life, I started listening to lots of successful people who talked about mindset, personal growth, people who broke barriers, who didn’t listen to the naysers and used resourcefulness to reach that next level of life…

They were influencers, motivation speakers, people who were living their lives in their own terms.

I then came across Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi….

if you don’t know Tony Robbins – he is a life coach, author and philanthropist. He has helped millions of people to achieve a healthier, wealthier, more fulfilling, passionate and purposeful life.

Dean Graziosi is an extremely successful entrepreneur who came from very humble beginnings.

I felt I had found 2 people who were real despite their success and power. Their message spoke to my heart and instantly resonated with me….

So I started binge listening to them…every day, whenever I could…

My mindset started changing slowly, my beliefs about who I was and what I could do started changing and slowly I started creating new thought patterns, new habits…

Slowly I started building up on my quite confidence, on my courage to think about a different life, the possibility of a life on my terms…

As with my diet changes, exercise and meditation, I kept at it, listening to more of Tony and Dean each day as part of my health plan too….this time was about my personal growth and professional life…

And this is how I came across my deep desire to help people regain control of their own health after going through something so traumatic like cancer, it became so strong inside me that I felt I couldn’t just leave it.

I picked myself up from a pretty deep hole and I invested so much on my physical and mental health that I was able to create a new body, mind and life for myself.

If I did it, anyone could do it too.

Throughout my recruitment career, I met with so many people that were unhappy about their professional life.

They were either too stressed or spending 40 hours per week doing what they did not enjoy doing and that is not what we are in this life for.

I have experienced life is too short…but life is a wonder and for those of us who dare to go a little deeper, there is so much to unravel, so much more…

So if you are feeling you are not living a life on your terms, or if you spend the majority of your time doing what DOES NOT bring you joy and happiness…I would encourage you to listen to that same video I did about one year ago. If anything, you will come out with something or 2, 3 things that are valuable…really valuable to your life.

You can watch the video by clicking on the link below:

Click here

This training and the buying into the KBB course enabled me to start steering my ship at the right direction, it showed me how to bring more passion, more purpose and more success into my life!

And I know that this could show you how to bring more passion, more purpose and more success into your life!

This is not only about my professional life, this is about my personal and spiritual life too.

You see as a recruiter I have always thrived on helping people to be happier at their jobs, on helping them with their problems at work, on finding them the job of their dreams and finding my clients their dream team member.

That was what success look like for me at work…

Now I feel my purpose is a little bigger…it is helping people to reshape their whole lives, not only their lives at work but their personal lives too…

We get bombarded with promises of a perfect life daily on social media… where you will earn millions overnight and never get old if you wear the newest face cream in the market…but we all know deep down life doesn’t quite work like that.

I hope for you…you take the time to watch this video….to take the time to invest on yourself…and on the potential of living a life on your terms.

Don’t miss this opportunity….this has literally transform my life.

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Are you living the life you desire?

We are fortunate to live in the information age and as much as it can be overwhelming sometimes….we have all the information we want on our door step….on the click of our fingers…but yet I feel most of us keep doing what we know…what it is easy….what it is comfortable.

When we look at someone who is eating healthy, exercising daily, looking after their health, we automatically think: this is impossible, I can’t fit all of these healthy habits in my day, I am too busy…

What we forget is “Life is easy if you live it the hard way, and hard if you live it the easy way”

What I mean is, it is easy to wake up in rush,

grab a coffee and a donut,

listen to the news (which fills you up with negativity) on your way to work,

work through another day in a job that you don’t love but pay the bills,

grab a burger and chips for lunch (after all you got an ice cream for free at your favorite fast food restaurant),

survive through the afternoon feeling tired and over it,

flick through social media (and everybody’s post advertising their perfect life) on the way back home,

get a take way for dinner,

drink a couple of glasses of wine while watching rubbish TV and go to bed.

What it is hard is wake up early enough to do 45 minutes exercise every day,

prepare yourself a healthy shake for breakfast or anything that is healthy,

listen to some positive youtube videos or an ebook on the way to work,

find joy and excitement in your job or keep working on a side project that excites you during your break,

eat the salad you prepared the night before for lunch,

listened to an ebook on your way back home,

prepare a healthy dinner for you and your family,

spend some time talking to your partner/friend or anyone that lives with you about their day,

go to bed early so you can get up early tomorrow.

The easy route will take you on a path of putting on the weight you don’t want,

feeling ailments that you didn’t plan to have,

feeling stressed about everything,

feeling unfulfilled with life,

feeling unhealthy physically and mentally.

The hard route will take you on a path of feeling fit, healthy and strong.

You will be able to find joy and purpose in your daily job and if not, you will have the mental and physical strength to seek for another solution.

You will feel you are constantly growing as a person.

You will feel you are constantly working on yourself, or creating a better version of yourself, a better life.

I want to share with you a video that really motivated me to become someone who fits more the scenario 2 person rather than the scenario 1 person.

I have been listened to Dean Graziosi for quite a while now. He is a multiple New York Best Selling Author, creator of multiple 9 figure companies and one of the best real estate and marketers in the world today.

I love his passion, his humbleness and genuine manner, his values…but you are probably asking yourself why Dean?

I came across Dean in my search to listen to inspiring people, positive talks, people that challenge my thinking, people that encourage me to be a better version of myself and I thought he was just the best out there….

In one of Dean’s videos, I learned that experts say we spend our life in 3 different scenarios:

1.  You are either doing things in your life that irritates you: relationships, people, projects, routines – they don’t make you feel good, they drain your energy.

2.  Or you do things you are ok at, you feel ok about it because you are used to doing them.

3.   And lastly you also spend time doing things that you want to do all the time in your life, things that fascinate you, they fill you up with energy. They excited you, they light you up.

If you have to put a % next to each scenario in your life right now, what percentage of your time do you spend in number 1,2,3?

I would love for you to watch the whole video:

Watch until the end because that is where the best bit is.

We need to stop living an average life – All we need is a mindset shift…Change your mindset…change your life…