The concept of showing up to ourselves can seem like an illusion…
We live such busy lives…we go from one task to another, one place to another until we collapse on the sofa exhausted each night…
How can we change that? How can we find balance?
How can we start living differently?
I have found in my journey to recover and healing after cancer that taking small steps is the key…
But the most important action is to take personal responsibility…
We can blame on not having time, we can blame on not having money, we can blame on not having the right conditions to show up to ourselves but until we do it…nobody will do it for you…
You are the only one who can do it…
I find the way I start my day is such an important part of the process…
Starting the day with a focus on me is the foundation for filling my cup, replenishing my energy, cultivating self love…
I start my day with a meditation practice then I exercise…
I feel by doing that I attend to my mind’s needs and my body’s needs before everyone’s else, being I become a mum, a wife, an entrepreneur…
I start the day in control, making my own decisions…feeling I am in control of my destiny…
Each week I focus on replacing an one old habit with a new one…these days they are mostly linked to my emotional well being…
I have let my monkey mind run the show for way too long in my life…
So I focus on things like negative self talk, judgement, the need to be right, worry, frustration and any low vibration feelings and emotions that take my energy way…
I make a plan, a rehearsal the habit change in mind…I start focusing on changing that feeling and emotion inside me by observing coming and going…and by slowly creating new feelings and emotions around the particular situation I am working on…
I go to bed early so my physical and mental body can replenish and repair itself…
There is no buts or ifs. I am in bed each day at 9 pm so I can give myself the opportunity to wind down, to get into deep sleep and to have a restful night sleep.
Showing up to myself is a priority for me…I spent too many years thinking my body, mind and soul could take the abuse, the stress, the lack of care of day to day life…
After a Stage 3 Bowel Cancer diagnosis, I asked myself – why did I do that all for?
Why didn’t I look after myself first?
Why didn’t I treat my physical, mental and emotional health as a priority?
And I am here to tell you:
Why wait? Wait until you need to look after yourself…until the health crisis…until the daring diagnosis…until it is too late?
Do it now…while you are not dependent on it…while you can practice and implement things slowly…while your life is not dependent on it…the more you do it…the more it will become second nature to you…it is all about practice.