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I had a terrible habit to blame….

Blame other people…

Blame my circumstances….

Blame my “bad luck”

Blame the person who is driving slowly in front of me when I am late

Blame the car park that was too tight because I am such a bad driver to park the car…

Ya know how it goes right?

You have a habit to blame and you blame everything…

It is easy…

It makes you feel you are right….

And the world is wrong…

But when I made a decision to take full responsibility of my life…

I had to undo the “blaming” habit…

And in every situation I started asking myself questions like:

“What can I learn here?”

“Is this happening with me because I need to see something that I couldn’t see?”

Taking responsibility is a little more challenging…

It requires practice….

It requires discipline and persistence…

These are the main lessons I learned when I start taking full responsibility of my life

Taking responsibility empowers you even when it hurts…

Blaming leaves your powerless…

When you take responsibility, you can change anything in your life because you are in control…

Blaming makes you feel you can’t change anything…

Taking responsibility is a practice that gives you energy…

Blaming is a practice that drains your energy…

Taking responsibility of where you are at and who you are is an important step towards changing your life but again it is a practice and habit.

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get where you want to go. No one else” Les Brown

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Are you living in an comfortable or uncomfortable place?

The real pain and suffering comes from not making uncomfortable decisions

I remember how uncomfortable I felt

How unhappy I was

How lost I felt

Before cancer I feel my life was a blur…

I didn’t know who I was…

If I was coming or going…

I was never present…

My focus was scattered…

I was running away…

Because being in my body was uncomfortable

My thoughts were always racing in the wrong directions…

All of a sudden it was as if someone pressed pause in my life:I needed to think about how I was going to press play again…

Did I want to run the same movie again?

Or did I want to create a different one?

Creating a different one felt impossible…

It felt like a lot of work…

It felt painful…

But doing the same thing over and over again wasn’t an option anymore…

It lead me to sickness…

I needed to recognise that…

As I took the leap…

And started creating a new movie.

I realised that taking uncomfortable actions were not as uncomfortable as I was living…

Creating a new movie wasn’t as scary as staying in the one I had been running my whole life.

When you ask yourself for real: what is it more uncomfortable?

Staying where you are or creating a new version of you where you become who you want to be?

You might be tempted to answer staying where I am…

But if you dig deeper and ask yourself…

Do I feel good in my body?

Are my thoughts contributing to my well being?

Do I mostly live in a beautiful or a frustrated state of mind?

I guess it is up to each of us to choose which unconfortable choice we want…😉

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Don’t make the same mistake I did🤯

I thought I could do it all…

I thought I knew it all…

I thought I was a good person…

I thought I was an honest person…

I thought I had it all together…

Don’t get me wrong…

I still think I am a good person…

And I am honest too…

But that doesn’t mean that I was immune to cancer…

We don’t automatically get better health because we hold ourselves to the highest standards as a decent human being…

Having it all under control – meaning good packed lunches, dinner organized, clothes washed, half organized house doesn’t guarantee you good health either….

And doing it all is probably the last thing that guarantees you good health…

Because we can’t do it all…

Have you chatted with someone who you thought had it altogether and realized that they didn’t after all?

We are all humans…

We make mistakes…

Sometimes we learn from it…

And when we don’t…

Life presents us with the same challenge in a different form…

until we learn it for real…

But this is a story for another email….

When the doctor confirmed I had Stage 3 Bowel Cancer, I thought to myself:

I worked so hard to be a good person. Why me?

I have kids….

As I started getting the courage to put my hand up and say:

I don’t know it all…

I can’t do it all…

I am a good person but there are a few things I need to work on…

I am honest but I haven’t been honest to myself…🤦

Things started changing…

Being honesty to ourselves is one of he hardest things we can do…

It is so much easier to hide ourselves in statements that protect us from changing…

When I started to share my story, to help people like the old version of myself…

I realized that the biggest issue was not in the doing but the thinking…

All the time people think they know it all…

they have tried everything…

and nothing works…

and they say to themselves I don’t have time or money to invest on myself…

and they say to themselves nothing is going to change…

Guess what?

Nothing ever changes…

and people get the same results…

But when you are honest to yourself…

things change…

You change….

You become the change…

Don’t make the same mistake as I did…

Don’t hide away from your truth…

Don’t hide away from what you can’t accomplish by yourself…

Don’t hide away from what you need to work on…

Don’t hide away from asking for help…

Be brave…

Show up to yourself…

Be real…

and watch the transformation happens…

The only thing that can promise good health is being honest with yourself…

It is working on yourself daily…

It is being true to yourself…

No magical pills…

Just a daily practice…