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Don’t make the same mistake I did🀯

I thought I could do it all…

I thought I knew it all…

I thought I was a good person…

I thought I was an honest person…

I thought I had it all together…

Don’t get me wrong…

I still think I am a good person…

And I am honest too…

But that doesn’t mean that I was immune to cancer…

We don’t automatically get better health because we hold ourselves to the highest standards as a decent human being…

Having it all under control – meaning good packed lunches, dinner organized, clothes washed, half organized house doesn’t guarantee you good health either….

And doing it all is probably the last thing that guarantees you good health…

Because we can’t do it all…

Have you chatted with someone who you thought had it altogether and realized that they didn’t after all?

We are all humans…

We make mistakes…

Sometimes we learn from it…

And when we don’t…

Life presents us with the same challenge in a different form…

until we learn it for real…

But this is a story for another email….

When the doctor confirmed I had Stage 3 Bowel Cancer, I thought to myself:

I worked so hard to be a good person. Why me?

I have kids….

As I started getting the courage to put my hand up and say:

I don’t know it all…

I can’t do it all…

I am a good person but there are a few things I need to work on…

I am honest but I haven’t been honest to myself…🀦

Things started changing…

Being honesty to ourselves is one of he hardest things we can do…

It is so much easier to hide ourselves in statements that protect us from changing…

When I started to share my story, to help people like the old version of myself…

I realized that the biggest issue was not in the doing but the thinking…

All the time people think they know it all…

they have tried everything…

and nothing works…

and they say to themselves I don’t have time or money to invest on myself…

and they say to themselves nothing is going to change…

Guess what?

Nothing ever changes…

and people get the same results…

But when you are honest to yourself…

things change…

You change….

You become the change…

Don’t make the same mistake as I did…

Don’t hide away from your truth…

Don’t hide away from what you can’t accomplish by yourself…

Don’t hide away from what you need to work on…

Don’t hide away from asking for help…

Be brave…

Show up to yourself…

Be real…

and watch the transformation happens…

The only thing that can promise good health is being honest with yourself…

It is working on yourself daily…

It is being true to yourself…

No magical pills…

Just a daily practice…

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Are you taking self responsibility for your life?

When I was diagnosed with Stage 3 Bowel Cancer, I knew I couldn’t count on anybody or anything outside of me. I needed to count on me only…

Meaning…I needed to take full responsibility for what I had done to get me to my diagnosis. There was no more stories, blaming, resentment that I could depend on if I wanted to survive chemotherapy.

I knew turning up to chemo wasn’t going to save me. Cancer recurrence is massive…and I didn’t want to live a life walking in egg shells, scared that cancer was going to come back…

Taking personal responsibility is very different than blaming myself. I never for one moment regret how I lived up to that point, I just made a decision to make different choices from that moment on…

I started reading every book I could find on health, cancer, diet, exercise, emotional healing…you name it. I couldn’t leave up to chance anymore…

I needed to take this seriously…

I felt I got another chance to live…

I wasn’t going to press repeat this time and stay stuck thinking everything I had done to that point was right…

I had to let go of the need to be right…

I had to let go everything I knew behind…

I had to let go everything I felt was contributing to my diagnosis…

Life is constantly changing…throwing us curve balls….sometimes pretty big ones…

We can choose to stay in the same place, doing the same thing and getting the same results

Or we can change to adapt, change and respond to it by accepting personal responsibility and making different choices.