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Urgency and your health…

๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐˜† ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€โ€ฆ
When was last time you REALLY want to make something happen?
When you look back in your lifeโ€ฆ
And you think about when it was last time you made something happened
because you really wantedโ€ฆ
You realise that:
You did everything you could each day until you got what you wanted
You made โ€œthisโ€ as your goal and priority
You shuffle your life around so you could fit in activities in your day to support you achieving your goal
You didnโ€™t stop thinking about it and you were unconsciously setting intentions to the universe or God about your goal
You were like a dog with a bone until you achieved your goalโ€ฆ
Whether your goal was to get another job, buy a new car, a house, loose weight, get married, buy a new iphoneโ€ฆ
You knew what you wantedโ€ฆ
You did everything you couldโ€ฆ
Until you got itโ€ฆ.
๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜๐—ต, ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†โ€ฆ
But the tricky part is seeing WHAT YOU WILL GET by putting all the effort, work, activities or whatever you want to call itโ€ฆ
๐— ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ต๐˜†๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐˜† ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜?
What if you think about all the time you were too tired to focus on starting your your businessโ€ฆ
What if you think about all the c*** you have to put up with in your corporate job but because you are too tired, you are stuck thereโ€ฆ.
What if you think about all the time you were too tired to play with your kids, your grandkidsโ€ฆ
What if you thought that if you keep doing what you are doing, you will end up being a burden on your family ( I was on mine at 38 years old)โ€ฆ.
๐—ช๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฒ?
๐—•๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜†, ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜?
What if you thought about your constant brain fog and inability to absorb new information to start your new business?
What if you thought about your brain overwhelm where you canโ€™t cope with anything else other than delivering mediocre results at your corporate job?
What if you though about all the time you shouted at your kids, husband, mum, dad etc because you level of tolerance is just null?
๐—ช๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜†?
๐๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ง๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐›๐ž๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ž ๐*๐’* ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ช๐ฎ๐ข๐ญ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐š๐ง๐ค๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฏ๐š๐ฅ๐ฎ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐š๐ซ๐ค๐ž๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐š๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ๐ง’๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ?
So investigating that sounds like a waste of time doesnโ€™t it?
What if you thought about all the time you canโ€™t write a post about your true story so you can share with the world your story? Start your online business?
What if you thought about all the time you want to post a real picture of yourself but canโ€™t quite feel confident about it?
What if you thought about all the relationships you have that are broken and dysfunctional that impact your day โ€“ to โ€“ day life?
What if you thought about the uneasiness feeling and void you feel deep inside but are too scared to even recognize it?
๐—ช๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜†๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ถ๐˜?
If the urgency is there and you really want to create a different feeling on the inside, the habits changes are easyโ€ฆ
If you are not prepare to look into yourself deep down and shed light into your darkness, habits changes will be hardโ€ฆ
Urgency mattersโ€ฆ
Human beings change when there is a mustโ€ฆ.
Aside from that, everyone is looking to avoid pain and seek pleasureโ€ฆ
While there is a big void on the insideโ€ฆ.
Investing on yourself is investing on your future.
Telling yourself you know it all and you can do it by yourself while you have been in a cycle of habits that doesnโ€™t serve you for years, wonโ€™t get you the transformation you are looking for.
Lying to yourself to protect your ego wonโ€™t change your future either.
So when it comes to health, ask yourself a question:
๐——๐—ผ ๐—œ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ๐—บ ๐—œ ๐—ท๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€?
โ€œYou cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless YOU CHANGE.โ€ โ€“ Les Brown

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I thought I could do it all…

I thought I knew it all…

I thought I was a good person…

I thought I was an honest person…

I thought I had it all together…

Don’t get me wrong…

I still think I am a good person…

And I am honest too…

But that doesn’t mean that I was immune to cancer…

We don’t automatically get better health because we hold ourselves to the highest standards as a decent human being…

Having it all under control – meaning good packed lunches, dinner organized, clothes washed, half organized house doesn’t guarantee you good health either….

And doing it all is probably the last thing that guarantees you good health…

Because we can’t do it all…

Have you chatted with someone who you thought had it altogether and realized that they didn’t after all?

We are all humans…

We make mistakes…

Sometimes we learn from it…

And when we don’t…

Life presents us with the same challenge in a different form…

until we learn it for real…

But this is a story for another email….

When the doctor confirmed I had Stage 3 Bowel Cancer, I thought to myself:

I worked so hard to be a good person. Why me?

I have kids….

As I started getting the courage to put my hand up and say:

I don’t know it all…

I can’t do it all…

I am a good person but there are a few things I need to work on…

I am honest but I havenโ€™t been honest to myself…๐Ÿคฆ

Things started changing…

Being honesty to ourselves is one of he hardest things we can do…

It is so much easier to hide ourselves in statements that protect us from changing…

When I started to share my story, to help people like the old version of myself…

I realized that the biggest issue was not in the doing but the thinking…

All the time people think they know it all…

they have tried everything…

and nothing works…

and they say to themselves I don’t have time or money to invest on myself…

and they say to themselves nothing is going to change…

Guess what?

Nothing ever changes…

and people get the same results…

But when you are honest to yourself…

things change…

You change….

You become the change…

Don’t make the same mistake as I did…

Don’t hide away from your truth…

Don’t hide away from what you can’t accomplish by yourself…

Don’t hide away from what you need to work on…

Don’t hide away from asking for help…

Be brave…

Show up to yourself…

Be real…

and watch the transformation happens…

The only thing that can promise good health is being honest with yourself…

It is working on yourself daily…

It is being true to yourself…

No magical pills…

Just a daily practice…

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Does this sound familiar?

You wake up thinking: I am exhausted!!!

And a voice inside you answers: but you need to keep going….

To which you answer: Yes I know.

Then you jump on your treadmill and you start your day…

By the way the treadmill here is not a real one, it is just your life…

You can observe from here how that goes…

It is a never ending race where you go from one thing to another with nothing left for you.

I never thought there was another way…

I thought everybody had to just run themselves ragged…day in day out…

I thought this was the only way to living…

Until I was forced to find another way…

I always say to my husband that if my cancer had been Stage 1 or Stage 2, I would have gone back straight onto that treadmill again…

Sadly this is the reality of it all…

I needed a big shake up…

My wake up call needed to be serious…SUPER SERIOUS…for me to listen…

So I did…

In the process of leaving my corporate job and starting my business, I thought for a moment that everyone would like to hear my story…

Everyone would like to see that there was another way…

But I realized that mostly I speak to the older version of myself…

And the older version of myself would have never done, seen or believed that there was another way…

She was so stuck in that pattern that she needed something pretty big to stop that treadmill.

Besides she was too scared to admit she was wrong…

She was too embarrassed to admit she needed help.

I realized that to stay focus on bringing awareness to the “old version of myself”, I needed to connect to something a lot deeper inside me…

So daily I connect to the “old me” and I feel so much compassion for that lady…

who tried so hard…

who never gave up…

but who secretly wanted something else….

If you wanna reach out for help, you know where I am.