Tag: how can I heal myself

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Healing has so many facets…

There is the physical healing…

The emotional…

The spiritual…

The professional…

The list can go on for a while…

But I found that the biggest and most important element and deciding factor is only one

WANTING TO BE HEALED…

All the time I treated my health as third or fourth priority, I got what I put in…

Sickness in my body…

All the time I ignored my emotional health, I got what I put in…

Despair, anger, resentment, feeling lost and victimized

All the time I followed what I thought it was expected of me, my professional life was a constantly race in a stupid threadmill…

With 0 fulfillment…

It took me so much courage to wanting to heal…

Because when I made that decision there were 2 things I had to admit….

First one was that I had been doing A LOT of things wrong…

When I say a lot I mean ALMOST EVERYTHING…

Trying being a “perfectionist”, “type A” personality needing to do that…

The second thing I had to admit was that I couldn’t do it all my own…

Even though I had done life on my own for my whole life…

Or at least I felt like it…

These days I am so passionate about what I went through, that sharing what I learned with my clients is my biggest and deepest passion…

When it comes to explaining to people what feeling healed means…

I feel sometimes it is hard to explain…

I lived so long in disharmony with my body and my self that feeling healed means

EVERYTHING…

Feeling healed means to have a delicious relationship with my body

Feeling healed means being able to catch myself up and being honest with myself when I need to

Feeling healed means having a close relationship with my inner voice, so close that sometimes I have to laugh at it:

Jeez, are you going to go crazy again?

Feeling healed means loving myself A LOT, the ugly and the beautiful for all I have been and for all that I am…

Nothing and nobody will ever take this feeling away from me…

Because feeling healed makes me want to cultivate that feeling everyday…

So yes I don’t take it for granted…

I still cultivate that feeling every single day…

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Hurt people hurt people – Are you hurt?

𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙄 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙢𝙮𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, 𝙢𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙢𝙮 𝙝𝙪𝙨𝙗𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙜𝙤𝙩 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧…

𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙝𝙞𝙢, 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙜𝙤𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧….

Nick and I have been together for 18 years…

He is my jackpot…❤

My lottery ticket…😍

The best thing that has ever happened in my life…

We met in a hostel in Budapest and our story is romantic…

It was love at first sight…

But we had our moments….

If you add 2 small children in the mix, you know what I am talking about…

It leaves you without much to give to each other….

Especially because we always lived away from family…

After my cancer diagnosis, Nick had to look after me, the kids, his business and everything…

But at the end of it all, it was hard on him after 7.5 months of having to be everything to everyone…

But truth is I didn’t have much to give back to him as my treatment had just finished….😿

And I was just about to keep my head above the water…

So I kept focusing on my healing…

And he started to focus on himself…

The more we focused on ourselves separately, the stronger we got together…

I found that the ripple effect of focusing on myself was huge in all areas of my life…

I believe that you need to become the change you want to see in people and in the world.

As Mahatma Ghandi would say:

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world” – Mahatma Ghandi.

You need to love yourself first before you allow yourself to be loved…

As Nick and I learned how to love ourselves for real, we became more fulfilled within ourselves and consequently happier together…

I became super passionate about helping people to heal themselves because I see the power in each and everyone of us when we are committed to changing…

And healing ourselves…

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Your health is an investment, not an expense

I get it…

Because I have been there…

Thinking I didn’t have money to invest on anything….

A massage, a facial, all the things that people pay for happily..

I never did….

I have always been very conscious about money…

Because growing up, we were very wealthy and we lost everything….

So I know the feeling….

of having and not having…

Everything that I owe today…

was built by myself and my husband…

we have never got any help from anybody….

and I am incredibly proud of that….

But I had a scarcity mentality when it came to spending money….

and you might not know….

Scarcity mentality comes from not feeling safe….

at your root chakra….

where my bowel was located…

where I had my cancer….

And I didn’t want to leave any stone unturn…

and I knew that solving my scarcity mindset was necessary….

It was part of my healing…

When I dug deeper to understand where it came from….

The straight forward answer was..​

“You have been through some shitty times girl!”

“Give yourself a break. So it is normal you are like that!!!”

But that wasn’t enough for me…

I kept digging deeper…

And when I was open to hear the answer….

The answer started coming up….

I didn’t spend any money on me…

because I didn’t think I was enough….

My dad have always treated my brother differently than me….

which made me carry a feeling of NEVER BEEN ENOUGH…

regardless of what I did….

so I get it….

so I thought I would talk about my self paced courses here which are a total bargain with massive value if you are wanting to start your healing journey:

THE SELF LOVE DISCOVERY

In this course I will take you through a journey to finding self love…

Without self-love is very hard to change because every time you try to change for reasons outside of yourself…

you get back to what you know….doing things to sabotage yourself

And this is why people find so hard to change for the long term…

FINDING FORGIVENESS

If you are hold on to resentment, anger or whatever it is…towards yourself, others, the government and the list goes on…

You can’t move on…

It takes an enormous amount of energy to hold on to things…

In this course I will take you through some powerful exercises where it will help you to let go of whatever you are holding on to step by step.

FREE YOURSELF TO RECEIVE

Most of us feel constantly overwhelm because we feel we are always giving and never receiving…

In this course, I will teach you 5 practical tools you can use on your day-to-day life where you will create space in your life to receive…

And stop feeling like you are giving all the time…

DE-STRESS YOURSELF DAILY

Stress is an epidemic and we all suffer from it…

What we don’t realise is that we can do practical things daily to help us let go of the stress, alleviate the stress and keep on top of our stress.

This is a course where I teach you practice tools that you can use daily in your life to de-stress yourself.

To check it out, click here

SELF PACED COURSES

Now…

If you have been reading my stuff, watching my stuff, consuming my content…

You know I know what I am talking about….

You know I live what I preach…

So if you are sitting at home thinking…

I wish I was as courageous as her…

I wish I could do what she does…

Start here…

Because these courses have some powerful things I did and still do…

and if you follow what it is in them, you will certainly start changing your life.

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I couldn’t forgive…

When I was told I had Stage 3 Bowel Cancer, I didn’t get angry…

I didn’t blame anyone or anything…

I found a calm place quietly within myself and I asked God:

Wow that is serious! What do you want to tell me?

The answer was simple: You need to forgive.

At that moment in time, it felt like an impossible mission.

So I put that thought to the side…

As I started taking one step at a time during chemotherapy, that thought would come back in different forms…

How do you want to live your life after this?

What are you going to do to stay well from the inside out?

How are you going to survive?

Are you going to forgive or hold on to this for the rest of your life?

Although I was changing my diet, introducing exercise, meditating each day, reading every health book I could get my hands on…

I tried to avoid that though…

But that though would come back:

What about forgiveness?

I was so hurt that I could barely sit with my pain….

I was so hurt that I could barely open up my heart…

But slowly I started to doing the work…

I wanted to live so badly that I had to give everything a try….

As I reached out to God many times in my journey, as I meditated each day, as I sat with my painful feelings…

I could feel the forgiveness filling my soul slowly….

I could feel that weight lifting off my shoulders…

I could feel my energy changing….

I created a course “Finding forgiveness” as without forgiveness I wouldn’t have healed myself…

I wouldn’t have found happiness and fulfilment…

I wouldn’t have found self love…

If you need to forgive someone, yourself or something, I would love you to go through my course where I teach how to find forgiveness in steps

This is a practical course where I share what I have learned about forgiveness and how I was able to achieve forgiveness

To get this course, click here:

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Living with and beyond cancer

After my cancer diagnosis at 38 years old, I knew I needed to act quickly…I needed to change every aspect of my life if I wanted to live a long life.

Turning up to chemotherapy wasn’t going to cut the mustard…I needed to do a lot more than that…

Cancer recurrence is real…and after you have had it…that little voice on the back of your mind is always trying to play with you….

Nobody told me I needed to do anything other than turning up to chemotherapy…in fact doctors told me I was going to be tired and I wasn’t going to be able to do much during treatment…treatment was going to last at least 6 months – mine lasted 7.5 months with the delays.

I decided I wasn’t going to sit around for 7.5 months

I started with changing my physical body, changing my diet and introducing exercise. Very quickly I knew that I needed to do more…so I started taking every piece of my life a part so I could heal completely: in and out.

I once met a cancer survivor who had also done the inner work as I did. We were talking about how many people try avoiding the inner work…she then said…

“They avoid it because it is HELL”

Yes it was HELL…to open up, to feel vulnerable, to sit with my pain even though I thought I had safely placed that inside me as deep as I could…it needed to come out…when it did…I felt I vomited out all that pain. I couldn’t believe I had lived like I did for so long…in fear, in pain, prisoner of my own story, my own believes.

My husband once said ” We have spent our lives up to now to trying to conform, to fit in. We are now trying to get rid off everything we have done to fit in so we can find who we really are.”

As I lived in different countries and travelled around the world, I always tried to fit in but it wasn’t until recently that I discovered that it is not a matter of fitting in, it is a matter of finding who I am regardless of where I am, it is been content with who I am regardless of what it is around me.

When you make a decision to take your life a part to discover who you are, you embark on a beautiful journey of self discovery. Even with all the pain that I had to relive and redefine, my self discovery journey was the biggest gift I received from cancer.

Life is all about the meaning you give to things…how can you redefine the meaning to whatever it is happening in your life right now?