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I had a terrible habit to blame….

Blame other people…

Blame my circumstances….

Blame my “bad luck”

Blame the person who is driving slowly in front of me when I am late

Blame the car park that was too tight because I am such a bad driver to park the car…

Ya know how it goes right?

You have a habit to blame and you blame everything…

It is easy…

It makes you feel you are right….

And the world is wrong…

But when I made a decision to take full responsibility of my life…

I had to undo the “blaming” habit…

And in every situation I started asking myself questions like:

“What can I learn here?”

“Is this happening with me because I need to see something that I couldn’t see?”

Taking responsibility is a little more challenging…

It requires practice….

It requires discipline and persistence…

These are the main lessons I learned when I start taking full responsibility of my life

Taking responsibility empowers you even when it hurts…

Blaming leaves your powerless…

When you take responsibility, you can change anything in your life because you are in control…

Blaming makes you feel you can’t change anything…

Taking responsibility is a practice that gives you energy…

Blaming is a practice that drains your energy…

Taking responsibility of where you are at and who you are is an important step towards changing your life but again it is a practice and habit.

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get where you want to go. No one else” Les Brown

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Are you healing?

I hate depending on people…

I left my country when I was 21 years old with a deep desire to prove “girls” didn’t have to get married and have kids if they didn’t want to…

Yes I did get married and have children but I got to do what I wanted before hand 🔥

I was the first in a large extended family that chose a “not so normal path”

Instead of staying in my parents house until I got married, I went to the other side of the world without a plan…

After living in 5 different countries, I have always carved my own path…

With nobody to bail me…

And settling for what it was easy and comfortable is just not me…

In my healing journey, this desire not to depend on anything served me well…

As I found myself depending on doctors and medications, once more I came back to myself…

What could I do to change my situation?

What could I do each day to help my body and mind?

I took my power back completely…

I vouched myself I wasn’t going to depend on anything…

My healing journey consisted of me, myself and I…

Since chemo finished 2.5 years ago, I haven’t had one single cold…

I haven’t taken any medication

And I don’t take supplements either ( only B12 bcs I eat a plant based diet)My health gets better and better each day…

I believe we all have an incredible power within us…

All the time you keep looking for answers on the outside…

You are distraction yourself from your inner power…

If you are looking to heal yourself, this is my 2 cents on it:

Stop looking on the outside, spend time finding the answers within you.

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What are you doing for your health?

Today I had to go to the hospital…

To have a blood test as next week I am going to see my oncologist…

When I got to hospital, it is hard for me not to remember where I have been…

As I see people showing their sickness in the way they walk, how their facial expressions are…

I see a lot of pain…

Physical and emotional….

Today I felt so deeply inside me a strong desire to continue to do whatever I can each day not to get there again…

Reality is we are all going to die of something even though we try to ignore the subject and the reality of it all….

But it is not about dying…

The choices we make each day is about how we are going to live each day….

How can we change our future but making different choices now…

How can we treat our bodies now…How can we look after our minds….

How can we look heal our souls….

The more I dig into my studies, working with clients and the fascinating world of how our bodies and minds work…

I come back to the same conclusion….

We are the only ones who can change our future…

We are the only ones who can make different choices….

We are the only ones who can start treating our bodies differently…

We are the only ones who can change our habits…We are the only ones who can change our thoughts…

Nobody else can do this work for us….

Only us….only us….

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Are you a self motivated person?

Most of us will say that we can’t change a particular area in our lives because we lack motivation…

I would argue with that…

I believe all of us have one area or more in our lives that we do well, we feel successful at it and regardless of what happens around us we keep that area going, moving up, towards achieving our goals around it.

But there are other areas in our lives that we struggle with…we tell ourselves that we can’t change them because of time, money, knowledge…we even blame other people…

What we try to avoid is to get to the truth behind our behaviour…

We don’t want to say out loud that work gets the best out of us…what would people think of you right? Especially when you are a parent right?

We don’t want to say our health is not a priority because who knows? You might get a curse from the skies and get sick…after all we all have been raised to say “Our health is the most important thing we have”. But do we live it?

We don’t want to say out loud: my relationship is not a priority for me because really who has got time to be intimate when we are so busy keeping the world going?

We don’t want to say out loud: I don’t feel connected to my children because I spend all my time correcting them, getting them to do their chores, disciplining them as otherwise they won’t be successful when they grow up right! It does take a lot of courage to say that too.

We also don’t want to say out loud that work is not a priority as we would worry about what our peers would think of us, how can we do well at work if we say what we really think about our jobs?

So we keep telling ourselves the same stories, doing the same things and getting the same results…after all we haven’t got time, money, the motivation or the discipline.

So I argue with that because I believe when you are willing to tell yourself the truth, you are willing to change whatever it needs to be changed in your life because you will find the motivation, the discipline, the how to do it. Remember there is one part of your life that you are already doing great and the only reason why you are doing great at it is because you invest time, money, effort and everything else you have got at it. You were not born knowing how to operate that part of life, you work at it, you change things around, you improved it, you gave and give your best at it every single day.

Now if you are honest to yourself: what is the area of your life that you know you need to change, you need to invest on, you need to look after?