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How much does it matter to you?

Health is not measured by how you look but by how you feel every day….

Happiness is not measured by what you have but by how you feel on the inside…

Fulfilment is not measured by what others think about you but by how what you do each day makes you feel…

Magic pills, instant gratification, quick results give you a taste of health, happiness and fulfilment but it is only a taste…

not the full blown…

After I reached rock bottom with my physical, emotional health as well as my professional life, I stopped fooling myself with a shot of it all, I wanted the full blown.

I started looking at everything as a long term plan:

What can I do today to feel the healthiest I can for as long as I can?

What do I need to change emotionally to feel the happiest I can for as long as I can?

What do I need to accomplish each day to feel as fulfilled as I can each and every day of my working hours?

People are constantly looking for the quick fixes short term results while they are missing the magic of the long term thinking.

If you want to transform your life on the long term and stop going around in circles looking for the next shiny object that will get you one more dopamine hit, rest assure that

This is what it is possible if you are committed to your transformation:

Go from exhaustion to peak energy

Emotionally broken and hurt to emotionally free

Overwhelm to being in control

Not having choices to making different choices

It is all down to one thing: are you worth it?

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Redefine what it is possible…

𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗾𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗱…

To participate on a cancer research study to improve your recovery and outcomes after cancer with exercise…

The university called me to ask if I had been doing any exercise since cancer treatment…

I told them what I did during chemo and what I have been doing since then.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝘄𝗲…

They are trying to scientifically prove that people have much better chances to recover quicker and better if they exercise during cancer treatment and after treatment….

I explained to her that in 2018 I was never told to exercise…or to change my diet…

or to do anything else other than turn up to chemo.

When I look back at my journey….

How much research I did…

How much I studied about health, diet, exercise and you name it…

I see someone who wanted to redefine what it was possible….

I was told to do what I could…

To eat what I felt like….

𝐈 𝐰𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐢𝐭…

𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞….

𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐢𝐭…

𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐳𝐨𝐧𝐞…

𝘀𝗼 𝗜 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆, 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲

ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴɴᴏᴛ ᴄʜᴀɴɢᴇ ʏᴏᴜʀ ꜰᴜᴛᴜʀᴇ, ʙᴜᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ ᴄʜᴀɴɢᴇ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʜᴀʙɪᴛꜱ,ᴀɴᴅ ꜱᴜʀᴇʟʏ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʜᴀʙɪᴛꜱ…ᴡɪʟʟ ᴄʜᴀɴɢᴇ ʏᴏᴜʀ ꜰᴜᴛᴜʀᴇ.ᴅʀ.ᴀʙᴅᴜʟ ᴋᴀʟᴀᴍ

You can’t change your body, mind and life with the habits that got you where you are in the first place…To change, you need to create new habits.

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Can you call on your motivation when you need to change something?

Most of us will say that we can’t change a particular area in our lives because we lack motivation…

I would argue with that…

I believe all of us have one area or more in our lives that we do well, we feel successful at it and regardless of what happens around us we keep that area going, moving up, towards achieving our goals around it.

But there are other areas in our lives that we struggle with…we tell ourselves that we can’t change them because of time, money, knowledge…we even blame other people…

What we try to avoid is to get to the truth behind our behaviour…

We don’t want to say out loud that work gets the best out of us…what would people think of you right? Especially when you are a parent right?

We don’t want to say our health is not a priority because who knows? You might get a curse from the skies and get sick…after all we all have been raised to say “Our health is the most important thing we have”. But do we live it?

We don’t want to say out loud: my relationship is not a priority for me because really who has got time to be intimate when we are so busy keeping the world going?

We don’t want to say out loud: I don’t feel connected to my children because I spend all my time correcting them, getting them to do their chores, disciplining them as otherwise they won’t be successful when they grow up right! It does take a lot of courage to say that too.

We also don’t want to say out loud that work is not a priority as we would worry about what our peers would think of us, how can we do well at work if we say what we really think about our jobs?

So we keep telling ourselves the same stories, doing the same things and getting the same results…after all we haven’t got time, money, the motivation or the discipline.

So I argue with that because I believe when you are willing to tell yourself the truth, you are willing to change whatever it needs to be changed in your life because you will find the motivation, the discipline, the how to do it. Remember there is one part of your life that you are already doing great and the only reason why you are doing great at it is because you invest time, money, effort and everything else you have got at it. You were not born knowing how to operate that part of life, you work at it, you change things around, you improved it, you gave and give your best at it every single day.

Now if you are honest to yourself: what is the area of your life that you know you need to change, you need to invest on, you need to look after?

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How much stress do you put yourself under each day?

I am not sure if you have ever really asked this question to yourself but truth is we all accept that living a stressful life is just what we do these days….and it is normal…

Reality is we accept this new normal without thinking what it actually means to us day to day…what it means to our bodies and our emotional state…the real effects on our physical and emotional body.

We even take pride in saying my job is stressful or I have a stressful life at times…

When I got cancer, I knew stress was one of the causes of my cancer. Nobody needed to tell me stress was one of the causes…I just knew it.

Growing back in Brazil I saw people living in constant flight or fight mode. Whether you are well off, constantly scared of being mugged/robbed or you are living in poverty fighting to meet your daily needs, it is fair to say it is a very stressful way of living.

So I guess my default mode has always been flight or fight…this is what I knew and how I dealt with day to day situations.

It is ok to have some situations in life where you need to activate your fight or flight mode but I think we all know by now that living in constant flight or fight is extremely harmful to our health.

It is like living running away from a tiger in a jungle…constantly….no human being can do that…not physically…not mentally…

When the body is continuously placed in the state of flight or fight we create the conditions of poor health.

And this is what I did…

I never stop to be grateful, truly grateful for being alive, for who I was, who I had become on my own since I left Brazil at 21, what I had accomplished after living in 7 countries, the friends I had made, how lucky I was to have the best husband in the world and to have two amazing perfectly healthy kids…

I allowed myself to get stressed about small things, when things didn’t go my way at work…I allowed myself to get super stressed about things that I thought were important…I gave too much of me…of my energy…

I knew I needed to find techniques to help me to deal with stressful situations but more important than that I needed to rewire my brain to look at life differently.

Every single bit of it…

And it all started when I noticed in my body the effects of being stressed…

I had a discussion with my family the day before chemo…I had an even bigger discussion with them sitting at the chemo chair…and when I got home…my body was a wreck…

I could not only feel the negative effects of the chemotherapy all over my body….this time I felt a much stronger level of toxicity and once more I was hanging on to my life by a thread….

Looking back my body suffered a lot more from the effects of feeling stressed about the discussion I had with my family than the physical effects of the chemotherapy.

I noticed it took me about 4 days to shake off that feeling too.

The recover from that chemotherapy cycle was harder.

I exercised…I meditated…I prayed….I wanted to get that poison out of my body and each day I felt everything I did, it wasn’t working…

I kept trying until 4 days later…I started feeling my body again….I started feeling balanced again…even when my body was full of chemotherapy, I felt balanced when the stress was out of my body…it was a noticeable difference.

So I started reading and researching about stress and how I could deal with stress differently.

I knew life without stress didn’t exist, I needed to create my own way to deal with stress differently, my own stress free life…

Stress is directly related to so many serious illness. If we do not manage or remove stress from our lives altogether, stress can cause a negative impact on the immune system, hindering the body natural defences against disease.

And that was enough to catch my attention….

I needed to look after my stress levels because I needed my immune system functioning at a 100% capacity.

I did and still do everything I can to help my immune system…

I believe if I cultivate a strong immune system, I can get rid of any disease…

So today I invite you to ask yourself this question:

How much stress do you put yourself under each day? At work? At the traffic jam? When together with your kids? When your husband, wife, partner doesn’t do what you expect them to? When people in general don’t do what you expect them to? When things don’t go your way? When you are facing an adversity or challenge?

And when it happens, how do you respond to it?

I found for myself that the first step into change is to observe and acknowledge…

Once I opened myself up to observe and acknowledge what was happening, I started my journey to change….

I am dedicating the month of May to talk about stress….so story to be continued….

It doesn’t take much to observe and acknowledge when something happens to you on the inside….try looking at it as a friend outside of the situation…try observing what happens to you as if you were someone else…sometimes it helps you to observe yourself without any self judgement.

I hope this is a constructive exercise…I hope this is an exercise that helps you to connect to your innerself….