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I had a terrible habit to blame….

Blame other people…

Blame my circumstances….

Blame my “bad luck”

Blame the person who is driving slowly in front of me when I am late

Blame the car park that was too tight because I am such a bad driver to park the car…

Ya know how it goes right?

You have a habit to blame and you blame everything…

It is easy…

It makes you feel you are right….

And the world is wrong…

But when I made a decision to take full responsibility of my life…

I had to undo the “blaming” habit…

And in every situation I started asking myself questions like:

“What can I learn here?”

“Is this happening with me because I need to see something that I couldn’t see?”

Taking responsibility is a little more challenging…

It requires practice….

It requires discipline and persistence…

These are the main lessons I learned when I start taking full responsibility of my life

Taking responsibility empowers you even when it hurts…

Blaming leaves your powerless…

When you take responsibility, you can change anything in your life because you are in control…

Blaming makes you feel you can’t change anything…

Taking responsibility is a practice that gives you energy…

Blaming is a practice that drains your energy…

Taking responsibility of where you are at and who you are is an important step towards changing your life but again it is a practice and habit.

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get where you want to go. No one else” Les Brown

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“𝙁𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙙𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝, 𝙞𝙩 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚”

When the pastor asked me what do you think it is going to happen if you die?

I was sobbing…

I had so much fear inside my head to leave my kids…

My husband…

To leave my life…

And everything I wanted to live…

As I imagined my funeral day…

𝘔𝘺 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘣𝘪𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴𝘍𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭

𝘉𝘰𝘺𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴, 𝘨𝘪𝘳𝘭𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴, 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴

𝘞𝘦𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴

Without me…

I answered the question:

𝙉𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙜𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙛 𝙄 𝙙𝙞𝙚

My kids, my husband would be sad but they would need to keep living…

As I left the pastor’s officeI felt free…

It was exactly what I needed to hear…

Maybe a little tough for some but for me was divinely presented by the pastor…

As God presented each step in my journey to healing…

𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗱𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴…

Instead….

I was going to live each day to the full….

𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨…

𝘛𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘺….

𝘛𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺…

𝘛𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴….

𝘞𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘮𝘦…

𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘭𝘦𝘧𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 6 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵…

All of that baggage and beliefs…

Came with me everywhere I went…

And it got me sick….

These days when I have a stressful day, a difficult conversation, a challenging time….

I remember the days I couldn’t even get out of bed….

What an amazing gift to live again….

and go through challenges again…

𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚….

𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙪𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙖𝙞𝙣…

𝙏𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙗𝙖𝙜𝙜𝙖𝙜𝙚….

𝙏𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙝𝙮𝙨𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙚 (𝙮𝙚𝙨 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙄 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙖𝙡𝙠 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙚𝙭𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙮)

𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙪𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙙𝙖𝙮 (𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙪𝙣𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙙𝙖𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙝𝙮𝙨𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙗𝙤𝙙𝙮)

Instead

𝙈𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙖 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚…

𝘽𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙥𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙞𝙩…

𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙜𝙪𝙞𝙙𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙘𝙠…

𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙥𝙨 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙜𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨…

𝘽𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙞𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙒𝙄𝙇𝙇 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩….

Not in a million years I would have thought I would be at the best shape in my life after cancer treatment

Not in a million years I thought I would have my own business helping people to change their lives….

It all started with a decision…

A decision to live a life that I wanted….

On my terms…

And a decision to doing the work every day….

Everything that was required to get there and beyond…

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Stress kills…

Ouch!

That is an overreaction isn’t it?

When you have a stressful reaction and the stress hormones get activated. It stays in your body for 5 hours and it shuts down your immune system for 5 hours…

Yeap…5 hours…

No immune system… no soldiers to fight anything that comes your way….

When I realised that stress was a third cause of my cancer diagnosis, I knew I needed to react differently to it…

I needed to find a different way to deal with the daily stresses of like….

How do you do that when it feels everything is coming our way all the time:

𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗱𝗱𝗶𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀

Unless you are a complete chill person, you are probably addicted to stress without even realising it.

You keep telling yourself things:

Work is stressful

Life is stressful

My family stresses me out

I am too stressed, I need a drink…

My kids stresses me out…

My pet stresses me out…

Your body is constantly looking for the next “stress high” as it is used to feeling stressed all the time.

This addiction comes from your body as you are used to being and feeling on flight and fight mode 24/7

Recognizing that is key if you want to change your reactions to life’s challenges

𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗽𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆

If you are not taking 5-10 minutes to gaze the sky, listen to a guided meditation or just to being, you are overworking your mind…

Your mind is never getting a break and things will be getting on top of you quicker…

You get stressed about smaller things and getting out of that cycle becomes even harder…

𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀 𝘀𝗹𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗱𝗮𝘆

One of the first things people do when they want to torture people is to deprive them from sleep.

It seems like people do this these days as a tool to torturing themselves.

Whether you are following the latest guru’s advice on accomplishing more and sleeping less or if you just don’t prioritise your sleep…

You are torturing yourself daily…

Adding a major stress to your body…

Once more contributing to staying in the fight or flight mode more often than not.

𝙎𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙟𝙤𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨…

𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙭𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙡𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙨

𝘽𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙙𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙘 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙞𝙣𝙫𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙙𝙖𝙮

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Why You Can’t Do What You Know You Need To….

This is a tough question right!

It makes us feel inadequate, less than…

It makes us feel we are a failure and a disappointment to ourselves and others…

Part of the problem is that behind every intention to change, there is an underlining unconscious fear and commitment to protect the ego..

to stay the same….

We want to open ourselves up but deep down we fear that the person on the otherwise will see ourselves in a different light, will judge us…

That deep desire to protect us wins because it is primal and it has always been there…

We do everything in our day-to-day lives to avoid pain and to create pleasure…

Going to uncomfortable places, getting out of our comfort zone and shinning a light into our darkness doesn’t fall into these 2 categories…

Avoiding pain or create pleasure…

In my journey to healing myself and helping others to heal, I believe there is one simple thing that discern the person who can overcome that and the person who can’t:

The person who can overcome that is the one who can sit with their pain, their uncomforting feeling of whatever they went through, whoever they have become and wherever they are at in life

But going to that place is not easy….

And it is not for everyone…

And when we want to go there by ourselves….

Our ego grows bigger and stop us from going to that painful place…

When we work with someone who can guide us through it by shedding a light into our darkness…

finding our blind spots…

Things are easier, you achieve what you desire faster and you create the life you want without all the baggage you have been carrying around.

You always have options though…

You can keep trying it at your own peace, go on another strict life style diet, watching free videos on social media, reading books and trying to figure out how to implement things…

or

You can work with someone who has done it – someone who has proven results and someone who has a simple and efficient strategy

If you are:

Sick and tired of living a life that is unfulfilled

Physically stressed and exhausted

Ready to be ruthlessly honest to yourself

Willing to get out of comfort zone

I would love to chat with you:

“Ask for help, not because you are weak, but because you want to remain strong”

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It can be small, it doesn’t have to be big…

As the world becomes more and more uncertainty, we are left to making one decision…

Are we going to take control of our lives or are we going to leave it up to chance?

Are you going to take small steps each day to look after ourselves or are we going to wait for something else to happen before we do anything?

On the 1st of January I stopped drinking coffee…

By the way I am not saying coffee is bad, all I saying is I wanted to take this “small step” to see how my body felt.

Instead of reading a book about it (by the way I have read many good and bad things about coffee) I decided to listen to my gut, to stop drinking coffee and to actually experience what it does in my body…

Ya know…I am Brazilian…I have drank coffee my whole entire life and I have always loved coffee.

Before I was diagnosed with cancer, I was drinking away too much coffee with sugar too (ouch!) and my inner voice kept telling me, you should stop drinking coffee.

But it has taken me 2.5 years to stop drinking coffee…

Isn’t that crazy?

We get so caught up in our habits that we think that if we hold on to that, it means we are living a “good” life.

But we forget (or maybe ignore altogether) to accept that some of our habits are just not good for us…

Yet we keep doing…

So to answer that question that is in your head?

Do I feel better about not drinking coffee?

YES, I DO!

I feel coffee gave me a fake feeling of energy (which I don’t need by the way as I have away too much energy) and coffee is also too strong for my bowel (yes exactly where my cancer was)

So the short answer is for me drinking one coffee per day (which is what I did) is probably not beneficial.

So what about you?

What have you been doing that you know in your gut (sometimes literally) that is not good for you?

You don’t have to stop forever…

You can always stop and see how you feel…

Nobody is going to stop you from going back to it…

You can simply try it…

See how you feel it…

And if you decide you still want to keep that “habit”, just go back to it.

I would love to hear how you get on…