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Stress kills…

Ouch!

That is an overreaction isn’t it?

When you have a stressful reaction and the stress hormones get activated. It stays in your body for 5 hours and it shuts down your immune system for 5 hours…

Yeap…5 hours…

No immune system… no soldiers to fight anything that comes your way….

When I realised that stress was a third cause of my cancer diagnosis, I knew I needed to react differently to it…

I needed to find a different way to deal with the daily stresses of like….

How do you do that when it feels everything is coming our way all the time:

𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗱𝗱𝗶𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀

Unless you are a complete chill person, you are probably addicted to stress without even realising it.

You keep telling yourself things:

Work is stressful

Life is stressful

My family stresses me out

I am too stressed, I need a drink…

My kids stresses me out…

My pet stresses me out…

Your body is constantly looking for the next “stress high” as it is used to feeling stressed all the time.

This addiction comes from your body as you are used to being and feeling on flight and fight mode 24/7

Recognizing that is key if you want to change your reactions to life’s challenges

𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗽𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆

If you are not taking 5-10 minutes to gaze the sky, listen to a guided meditation or just to being, you are overworking your mind…

Your mind is never getting a break and things will be getting on top of you quicker…

You get stressed about smaller things and getting out of that cycle becomes even harder…

𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀 𝘀𝗹𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗱𝗮𝘆

One of the first things people do when they want to torture people is to deprive them from sleep.

It seems like people do this these days as a tool to torturing themselves.

Whether you are following the latest guru’s advice on accomplishing more and sleeping less or if you just don’t prioritise your sleep…

You are torturing yourself daily…

Adding a major stress to your body…

Once more contributing to staying in the fight or flight mode more often than not.

𝙎𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙟𝙤𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨…

𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙭𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙡𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙨

𝘽𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙙𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙘 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙞𝙣𝙫𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙙𝙖𝙮

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Why You Can’t Do What You Know You Need To….

This is a tough question right!

It makes us feel inadequate, less than…

It makes us feel we are a failure and a disappointment to ourselves and others…

Part of the problem is that behind every intention to change, there is an underlining unconscious fear and commitment to protect the ego..

to stay the same….

We want to open ourselves up but deep down we fear that the person on the otherwise will see ourselves in a different light, will judge us…

That deep desire to protect us wins because it is primal and it has always been there…

We do everything in our day-to-day lives to avoid pain and to create pleasure…

Going to uncomfortable places, getting out of our comfort zone and shinning a light into our darkness doesn’t fall into these 2 categories…

Avoiding pain or create pleasure…

In my journey to healing myself and helping others to heal, I believe there is one simple thing that discern the person who can overcome that and the person who can’t:

The person who can overcome that is the one who can sit with their pain, their uncomforting feeling of whatever they went through, whoever they have become and wherever they are at in life

But going to that place is not easy….

And it is not for everyone…

And when we want to go there by ourselves….

Our ego grows bigger and stop us from going to that painful place…

When we work with someone who can guide us through it by shedding a light into our darkness…

finding our blind spots…

Things are easier, you achieve what you desire faster and you create the life you want without all the baggage you have been carrying around.

You always have options though…

You can keep trying it at your own peace, go on another strict life style diet, watching free videos on social media, reading books and trying to figure out how to implement things…

or

You can work with someone who has done it – someone who has proven results and someone who has a simple and efficient strategy

If you are:

Sick and tired of living a life that is unfulfilled

Physically stressed and exhausted

Ready to be ruthlessly honest to yourself

Willing to get out of comfort zone

I would love to chat with you:

“Ask for help, not because you are weak, but because you want to remain strong”

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It can be small, it doesn’t have to be big…

As the world becomes more and more uncertainty, we are left to making one decision…

Are we going to take control of our lives or are we going to leave it up to chance?

Are you going to take small steps each day to look after ourselves or are we going to wait for something else to happen before we do anything?

On the 1st of January I stopped drinking coffee…

By the way I am not saying coffee is bad, all I saying is I wanted to take this “small step” to see how my body felt.

Instead of reading a book about it (by the way I have read many good and bad things about coffee) I decided to listen to my gut, to stop drinking coffee and to actually experience what it does in my body…

Ya know…I am Brazilian…I have drank coffee my whole entire life and I have always loved coffee.

Before I was diagnosed with cancer, I was drinking away too much coffee with sugar too (ouch!) and my inner voice kept telling me, you should stop drinking coffee.

But it has taken me 2.5 years to stop drinking coffee…

Isn’t that crazy?

We get so caught up in our habits that we think that if we hold on to that, it means we are living a “good” life.

But we forget (or maybe ignore altogether) to accept that some of our habits are just not good for us…

Yet we keep doing…

So to answer that question that is in your head?

Do I feel better about not drinking coffee?

YES, I DO!

I feel coffee gave me a fake feeling of energy (which I don’t need by the way as I have away too much energy) and coffee is also too strong for my bowel (yes exactly where my cancer was)

So the short answer is for me drinking one coffee per day (which is what I did) is probably not beneficial.

So what about you?

What have you been doing that you know in your gut (sometimes literally) that is not good for you?

You don’t have to stop forever…

You can always stop and see how you feel…

Nobody is going to stop you from going back to it…

You can simply try it…

See how you feel it…

And if you decide you still want to keep that “habit”, just go back to it.

I would love to hear how you get on…