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Starting…

the hardest….

Starting to exercise…

Starting to look for a new job…

Starting to lose weight…

Starting to change your diet…

Starting a conversation with a friend about your problems….

Just the thought of it, it makes us cringe doesn’t it?

It feels like you need to climb this mountain so high that you can’t even see the top…

So what do you do?

Go back to what you know…

What it is comfortable…

What it is easy…

If you are a self discipline person and have started some amazing things in your life…

I am talking about that part of you that you haven’t conquer it yet…

I am talking about that part of you that bothers you big time…

I am talking about that part of you where you feel stuck…

A little like when you hit a brick wall…

What I say to my clients is….

Commit yourself to what you can do sustainably….

Commit yourself to what it can become part of you…

These are not quick fixes…

They are not quick diets….

They don’t give you instant results….

They are just real…

These habit changes are here to stay…

You are committed to them fully in your mind, heart and soul…

Nothing is going to derail you from them…

Because you have anchored yourself in them…

So if you are trying to eat better….

that doesn’t mean going on a diet….

It means changing one meal at a time to a healthier meal…

If you are trying to have more energy…

that doesn’t mean going for a 5KM run everyday

It means starting with a walk for 10 minutes…

If you are wanting to confine your problems in someone…

That doesn’t mean going on facebook and telling the world your most terrible issues…

It means having a conversation with a close friend and starting to share your true self…

Starting is the hardest but once you start it is like learning how to ride a bike…

before you know it, it becomes easy…

before you know it, it becomes part of you…

We can all start and conquer whatever we want if we want it bad enough…

All you have to do is to stop the excuses…

Because when we really want something, we find a way…

Be honest to your self…

Acknowledge where you are at…

Anchor yourself in your real why…

And start…

One small step at a time…

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Start with small habits

As the world becomes more and more uncertainty, we are left to making one decision…

Are we going to take control of our lives or are we going to leave it up to chance?

Are you going to take small steps each day to look after ourselves or are we going to wait for something else to happen before we do anything?

On the 1st of January I stopped drinking coffee…

By the way I am not saying coffee is bad, all I saying is I wanted to take this “small step” to see how my body felt.

Instead of reading a book about it (by the way I have read many good and bad things about coffee) I decided to listen to my gut, to stop drinking coffee and to actually experience what it does in my body…

Ya know…I am Brazilian…I have drank coffee my whole entire life and I have always loved coffee.

Before I was diagnosed with cancer, I was drinking away too much coffee with sugar too (ouch!) and my inner voice kept telling me, you should stop drinking coffee.

But it has taken me 2.5 years to stop drinking coffee…

Isn’t that crazy?

We get so caught up in our habits that we think that if we hold on to that, it means we are living a “good” life.

But we forget (or maybe ignore altogether) to accept that some of our habits are just not good for us…

Yet we keep doing…

So to answer that question that is in your head?

Do I feel better about not drinking coffee?

YES, I DO!

I feel coffee gave me a fake feeling of energy (which I don’t need by the way as I have away too much energy) and coffee is also too strong for my bowel (yes exactly where my cancer was)

So the short answer is for me drinking one coffee per day (which is what I did) is probably not beneficial.

So what about you?

What have you been doing that you know in your gut (sometimes literally) that is not good for you?

You don’t have to stop forever…

You can always stop and see how you feel…

Nobody is going to stop you from going back to it…

You can simply try it…

See how you feel it…

And if you decide you still want to keep that “habit”, just go back to it.

I would love to hear how you get on…

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Are you living the life you desire?

We are fortunate to live in the information age and as much as it can be overwhelming sometimes….we have all the information we want on our door step….on the click of our fingers…but yet I feel most of us keep doing what we know…what it is easy….what it is comfortable.

When we look at someone who is eating healthy, exercising daily, looking after their health, we automatically think: this is impossible, I can’t fit all of these healthy habits in my day, I am too busy…

What we forget is “Life is easy if you live it the hard way, and hard if you live it the easy way”

What I mean is, it is easy to wake up in rush,

grab a coffee and a donut,

listen to the news (which fills you up with negativity) on your way to work,

work through another day in a job that you don’t love but pay the bills,

grab a burger and chips for lunch (after all you got an ice cream for free at your favorite fast food restaurant),

survive through the afternoon feeling tired and over it,

flick through social media (and everybody’s post advertising their perfect life) on the way back home,

get a take way for dinner,

drink a couple of glasses of wine while watching rubbish TV and go to bed.

What it is hard is wake up early enough to do 45 minutes exercise every day,

prepare yourself a healthy shake for breakfast or anything that is healthy,

listen to some positive youtube videos or an ebook on the way to work,

find joy and excitement in your job or keep working on a side project that excites you during your break,

eat the salad you prepared the night before for lunch,

listened to an ebook on your way back home,

prepare a healthy dinner for you and your family,

spend some time talking to your partner/friend or anyone that lives with you about their day,

go to bed early so you can get up early tomorrow.

The easy route will take you on a path of putting on the weight you don’t want,

feeling ailments that you didn’t plan to have,

feeling stressed about everything,

feeling unfulfilled with life,

feeling unhealthy physically and mentally.

The hard route will take you on a path of feeling fit, healthy and strong.

You will be able to find joy and purpose in your daily job and if not, you will have the mental and physical strength to seek for another solution.

You will feel you are constantly growing as a person.

You will feel you are constantly working on yourself, or creating a better version of yourself, a better life.

I want to share with you a video that really motivated me to become someone who fits more the scenario 2 person rather than the scenario 1 person.

I have been listened to Dean Graziosi for quite a while now. He is a multiple New York Best Selling Author, creator of multiple 9 figure companies and one of the best real estate and marketers in the world today.

I love his passion, his humbleness and genuine manner, his values…but you are probably asking yourself why Dean?

I came across Dean in my search to listen to inspiring people, positive talks, people that challenge my thinking, people that encourage me to be a better version of myself and I thought he was just the best out there….

In one of Dean’s videos, I learned that experts say we spend our life in 3 different scenarios:

1.  You are either doing things in your life that irritates you: relationships, people, projects, routines – they don’t make you feel good, they drain your energy.

2.  Or you do things you are ok at, you feel ok about it because you are used to doing them.

3.   And lastly you also spend time doing things that you want to do all the time in your life, things that fascinate you, they fill you up with energy. They excited you, they light you up.

If you have to put a % next to each scenario in your life right now, what percentage of your time do you spend in number 1,2,3?

I would love for you to watch the whole video:

Watch until the end because that is where the best bit is.

We need to stop living an average life – All we need is a mindset shift…Change your mindset…change your life…