How to create the life you want

4.5 years ago I was diagnosed with Stage 3 Bowel Cancer

Was given a 70% chance of survival IF I did chemo.

To say I was scared and lost is an understatement.

My kids were only 6 and 4 years old๐Ÿ˜ข

The thought of not being there for them made me feel hopeless and helpless,

Fragile and vulnerable

Everything I didn’t know how to be๐Ÿ˜ฉ

After an emergency surgery I had 12 sessions of chemo to look forward to

The fear gripped in big time but the most important thing I did was to ask myself

๐™’๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™œ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™š ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š?

I acknowledged for the first time that my life was a mess๐Ÿ˜”

I was a mess

My health was a mess

Even though from the outside it looked like “picture perfect”(Happily married with 2 kids and a job that I loved)

I had been pretending for way too long that

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ๐™„ ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™š๐™™๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™—๐™š ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™–๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ๐™„ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ช๐™ก๐™™ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ก๐™ž๐™จ๐™š ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™š๐™ง ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ๐™Ž๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ๐™ฃ’๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™›๐™›๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™๐™š๐™–๐™ก๐™ฉ๐™

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ๐™„ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ช๐™ก๐™™ ๐™ ๐™š๐™š๐™ฅ ๐™ฅ๐™ช๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™—๐™ค๐™™๐™ฎ ๐™—๐™š๐™˜๐™–๐™ช๐™จ๐™š ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

I had been numbing my emotions and feeling with binge drinking for 16 years

And not giving my best self to my family (when you are angry, the anger starts spilling out of you whether you like it or not)๐Ÿ˜ฌ

The truth hit me hard๐Ÿ˜ฅ

The cancer diagnosis seemed simple in the face of how much I needed to change

I could see 2 choices:

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ๐™œ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ง๐™ค๐™ช๐™œ๐™ ๐™˜๐™๐™š๐™ข๐™ค ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™œ๐™ค ๐™—๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ข๐™–๐™ก ๐™ก๐™ž๐™›๐™š
๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ๐˜พ๐™ƒ๐˜ผ๐™‰๐™‚๐™€ ๐™€๐™‘๐™€๐™๐™”๐™๐™ƒ๐™„๐™‰๐™‚ ๐™„๐™‰ ๐™ˆ๐™” ๐™‡๐™„๐™๐™€

Yeap that is right!


It felt like I needed to learn how to walk again

There was so much work to do

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ๐— ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜†

I didn’t know where to start so

I started putting one foot in front of the other

Some days literally๐Ÿ™‚

Taking back control of each part of my life

Fast forward today


I feel the healthiest I have ever been and I am 43 years old now
I have more energy than I had in my 20s
I don’t take any medication and have 0 side effects from chemo


I feel free – holding on to anger and resentment was a big part of my sickness


I am conscious and I feel in control (my addiction to stress was another huge part of my sickness


I am living a DREAM that came true –

Something I never thought it was possible

Running my own successful coaching business and having FREEDOM

I wake up to messages from clients telling me they are taking back control of their lives and that they feel empowered

I have been married for 18 years and we are at the happiest stage of our marriage.
My kids are thriving physically, mentally and emotionally.
We just travelled around Australia in a caravan and we felt more connected than ever

๐—–๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฎ ๐—ก๐—˜๐—ช ๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—™๐—˜

I promised myself I wasn’t going to waste my life anymore

Moaning, Blaming and Complaining

I wasn’t going to live unconsciously anymore

I was going to be conscious about my feelings and emotions

Conscious about what I want

Conscious about who I truly am.

I wasn’t going to give my power to anyone anymore.

I was going to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY of MY LIFE

Sometimes life throws us things that are so big that shakes us to the core and we think

๐™ƒ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™„ ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š?

These days I believe in possibilities

We all have immense power within us to change ourselves and our life

We can ALWAYS take control despite any circumstances

I hope this post inspire you to take the next step from where you are at

Stop comparing your story to anybody else’s story

Everyone starts somewhereโ€ฆ

If I did it, you can do it tooโค๏ธ

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