I was having a midlife crisis just before my cancer diagnosis
How do I know that?
Well now that I can see and accept myself fully.
To start with I didn’t want to admit I was having a “midlife” thing let alone a crisis
I was 38 years old but in my head I felt I was in my 20s so the concept of “midlife” was not something I wanted to be part of
𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘂𝗻𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁
𝗜 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁
𝗜 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝘁 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗹𝗮𝘀𝗵 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝘆 𝗵𝘂𝘀𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱 – 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗜 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀
This was only 4.5 years ago
Of course when my life was stopped by a Stage 3 Bowel Cancer diagnosis
I had more urgent things to look after other than dealing with my midlife crisis
Surviving was my priority
But as I focussed on surviving the chemo and everything my body had to go through
I couldn’t help but recognize that indeed being unhappy, stress and overwhelmed for so many years was a major contributor to my sickness
And if after treatment I went back to that state of mind…
I am not sure I would be able to keep cancer at bay….
After you have cancer, cancer reoccurrence is often something people loose sleep over.
I did not want to become that person and I am not.
In my journey to healing the most impactful things I did were to change how I saw myself and the world…
But it took me so much courage to open that “pandora box”
After years of locking it with various keys and burying it deep down in my soul
The pandora box had some pretty ugly things like anger and resentment that was leeching into my physical body
Now I can say out loud that yes I did have a mid-life crisis before cancer
I questioned everything I was doing and I didn’t know how to get out of it
I was given cancer because otherwise I would still be stuck
I truly believe that…
And that was a pretty unhappy, lonely and angry place.
For that I am eternally grateful.
I see many of my clients being in that same place…
And thankfully they reach out to me before that daring diagnosis…
Because I truly believe there is so much one can do to
Let go of things that are blocking their physical body (anger and resentment does that)
Create habits physical and emotional that support their body and mind every day
It is not about trying to avoid the stress, the anxiety, the challenges…
It is about supporting you through it and building a different relationship with how you view all of it.
This part of the healing process can’t be delegated. You have to do it daily.
If that is where you are at
𝗦𝘁𝘂𝗰𝗸 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝘁
𝗔𝗻𝗴𝗿𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁
𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆
𝗟𝗲𝘁’𝘀 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝗶𝗳 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝘁
𝗜 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁
𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗽 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
𝗜𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂, BOOK A CALL