I was having a midlife crisis just before my cancer diagnosis
How do I know that?
Well now that I can see and accept myself fully.
To start with I didnโt want to admit I was having a โmidlifeโ thing
let alone a crisis
I was 38 years old but in my head I felt I was in my 20s so the concept of โmidlifeโ was not something I wanted to be part of
๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ป๐ต๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐
๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐น๐ ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฎ๐น๐น ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ ๐๐ผ๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐น๐น๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฒ๐น๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐น๐น ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐
๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐น๐ ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐น๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐๐น๐ฑ ๐น๐ฎ๐๐ต ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ ๐ธ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐บ๐ ๐ต๐๐๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ โ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐บ๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ฒ๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐
This was only 4.5 years ago
Of course when my life was stopped by a Stage 3 Bowel Cancer diagnosis
I had more urgent things to look after other than dealing with my midlife crisis
Surviving was my priority
But as I focussed on surviving the chemo and everything my body had to go through
I couldnโt help but recognize that indeed being unhappy, stress and overwhelmed for so many years was a major contributor to my sickness
And if after treatment I went back to that state of mindโฆ
I am not sure I would be able to keep cancer at bayโฆ.
After you have cancer, cancer reoccurrence is often something people loose sleep over.
I did not want to become that person and I am not.
In my journey to healing the most impactful things I did were to change how I saw myself and the worldโฆ
But it took me so much courage to open that โpandora boxโ
After years of locking it with various keys and burying it deep down in my soul
The pandora box had some pretty ugly things like anger and resentment that was leeching into my physical body
Now I can say out loud that yes I did have a mid-life crisis before cancer
I questioned everything I was doing and I didnโt know how to get out of it
I was given cancer because otherwise I would still be stuck
I truly believe thatโฆ
And that was a pretty unhappy, lonely and angry place.
For that I am eternally grateful.
I see many of my clients being in that same placeโฆ
And thankfully they reach out to me before that daring diagnosisโฆ
Because I truly believe there is so much one can do to
Let go of things that are blocking their physical body (anger and resentment does that)
Create habits physical and emotional that support their body and mind every day
It is not about trying to avoid the stress, the anxiety, the challengesโฆ
It is about supporting you through it and building a different relationship with how you view all of it.
This part of the healing process canโt be delegated. You have to do it daily.
If that is where you are at
๐ฆ๐๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐น๐ผ๐๐
๐๐ป๐ด๐ฟ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ณ๐ถ๐น๐น๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐
๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐ด๐ป๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฏ๐ผ๐ฑ๐
๐๐ฒ๐โ๐ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ณ ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ด๐ผ๐ผ๐ฑ ๐ณ๐ถ๐
๐ ๐น๐ผ๐ผ๐ธ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ณ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ผ๐๐
๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐ฝ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฟ ๐ผ๐๐ป ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป
๐๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ผ๐, BOOK A CALL