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Is midlife crisis a real thing?

I was having a midlife crisis just before my cancer diagnosis

How do I know that?

Well now that I can see and accept myself fully.

I realised that

To start with I didnโ€™t want to admit I was having a โ€œmidlifeโ€ thing๐Ÿ˜‚ let alone a crisis

I was 38 years old but in my head I felt I was in my 20s so the concept of โ€œmidlifeโ€ was not something I wanted to be part of

๐—œ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐—œ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜

๐—œ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ ๐˜ƒ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜

๐—œ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ต ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—ต๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ โ€“ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐—œ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€

This was only 4.5 years ago

Of course when my life was stopped by a Stage 3 Bowel Cancer diagnosis

I had more urgent things to look after other than dealing with my midlife crisis

Surviving was my priority

But as I focussed on surviving the chemo and everything my body had to go through

I couldnโ€™t help but recognize that indeed being unhappy, stress and overwhelmed for so many years was a major contributor to my sickness

And if after treatment I went back to that state of mindโ€ฆ

I am not sure I would be able to keep cancer at bayโ€ฆ.๐Ÿ˜ฌ

After you have cancer, cancer reoccurrence is often something people loose sleep over.

I did not want to become that person and I am not.๐Ÿ™Œ

In my journey to healing the most impactful things I did were to change how I saw myself and the worldโ€ฆ

But it took me so much courage to open that โ€œpandora boxโ€

After years of locking it with various keys and burying it deep down in my soul

The pandora box had some pretty ugly things like anger and resentment that was leeching into my physical body

Now I can say out loud that yes I did have a mid-life crisis before cancer

I questioned everything I was doing and I didnโ€™t know how to get out of it

I was given cancer because otherwise I would still be stuck๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

I truly believe thatโ€ฆ

And that was a pretty unhappy, lonely and angry place.

For that I am eternally grateful.

I see many of my clients being in that same placeโ€ฆ

And thankfully they reach out to me before that daring diagnosisโ€ฆ

Because I truly believe there is so much one can do to

Let go of things that are blocking their physical body (anger and resentment does that)

Create habits physical and emotional that support their body and mind every day

It is not about trying to avoid the stress, the anxiety, the challengesโ€ฆ

It is about supporting you through it and building a different relationship with how you view all of it.

This part of the healing process canโ€™t be delegated. You have to do it daily.

If that is where you are at

๐—ฆ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐—ธ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜

๐—”๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜

๐—™๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜†

๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐˜โ€™๐˜€ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ฑ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐˜

๐—œ ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜

๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฝ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป

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