๐๐ฎ โ๐จ๐๐๐ โ ๐ฅ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ ๐๐๐จ
๐ผ๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐จ๐ฉ ๐๐๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐๐จ๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎโฆ๐ข
My children saw me crying for the first time after my emergency surgery
My daughter who was 4 at the time asked me:
โ๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐๐ง ๐๐ฃ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช๐ง ๐๐ฎ๐๐จ?โ
๐ ๐ง๐๐๐ก๐๐จ๐๐ ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ ๐๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐จ๐ช๐ฅ๐ง๐๐จ๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ง ๐๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ
To never honour their feelings
To being strong all the time regardless of what you are going through
We all know this is a lie because it is impossible
And can get us in big trouble
Because when we suppress our emotions, we can get sick๐
๐ ๐๐ก๐จ๐ค ๐ฃ๐๐ซ๐๐ง ๐จ๐๐๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ง๐ง๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข ๐๐ฉ ๐๐ก๐ก
Even when I was wrong
I started to saying sorry to them which as hard for me at the beginning
I realised I was teaching my kids the illusion of a perfectionist
A sick title we put on ourselves when we believe we never make a mistake๐คฆ๐ฝโโ๏ธ
๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐จ๐จ ๐๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ง๐ช๐ข๐ฅ๐ฎ ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐
I realised I was teaching my kids this is how you deal with life
I realised that I inherited my patterns by watching my parents
And my kids were going to down the same path by watching me
I needed to change if I wanted them to change
๐๐๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐จ ๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ง๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐๐ค๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐จ ๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐ง๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐จ
๐๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ง๐ ๐๐ ๐๐จ ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข ๐๐ซ๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ช๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐๐จ
๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐จ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ช๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข๐จ๐๐ก๐ซ๐๐จ ๐ค๐ฃ๐ก๐ฎ
๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐จ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ก๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐ ๐ก๐ค๐ฉ ๐ข๐ค๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง ๐๐๐
๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐จ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ง ๐ค๐ฌ๐ฃ ๐๐ง๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ค๐ข ๐ฎ๐๐ฉ ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐๐ ๐๐ง ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐๐ ๐๐ง
๐ ๐๐ข ๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ช๐ ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐๐๐ง!๐
โ๐พ๐๐๐ก๐๐ง๐๐ฃ ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ง๐๐ง๐๐ก๐ฎ ๐จ๐ช๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฉ ๐ก๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช, ๐๐ช๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐ฃ๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐๐๐ก๐ฎ ๐จ๐ช๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฉ ๐๐๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช.โ
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