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Children copy what they see…

๐™ˆ๐™ฎ โ€˜๐™จ๐™ž๐™˜๐™ โ€™ ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™จ๐™จ๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™ ๐™ž๐™™๐™จ

๐˜ผ๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™—๐™š๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™ฎโ€ฆ๐Ÿ˜ข

My children saw me crying for the first time after my emergency surgery

My daughter who was 4 at the time asked me:

โ€œ๐™’๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™š๐™ฎ๐™š๐™จ?โ€

๐™„ ๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™ก๐™ž๐™จ๐™š๐™™ ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™–๐™˜๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™ ๐™ž๐™™๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ž๐™ง ๐™š๐™ข๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ

To never honour their feelings

To being strong all the time regardless of what you are going through

We all know this is a lie because it is impossible

And can get us in big trouble

Because when we suppress our emotions, we can get sick๐Ÿ˜”

๐™„ ๐™–๐™ก๐™จ๐™ค ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง ๐™จ๐™–๐™ž๐™™ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ง๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ข ๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™ก๐™ก

Even when I was wrong

I started to saying sorry to them which as hard for me at the beginning

I realised I was teaching my kids the illusion of a perfectionist

A sick title we put on ourselves when we believe we never make a mistake๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

๐™„ ๐™™๐™š๐™–๐™ก๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™—๐™ฎ ๐™—๐™š๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™œ๐™ง๐™ช๐™ข๐™ฅ๐™ฎ ๐™–๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š

I realised I was teaching my kids this is how you deal with life

I realised that I inherited my patterns by watching my parents

And my kids were going to down the same path by watching me

I needed to change if I wanted them to change

๐™๐™๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™š๐™š๐™  ๐™๐™–๐™จ ๐™—๐™š๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™– ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™  ๐™„ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™—๐™š๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™™๐™ค๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™๐™–๐™จ ๐™—๐™š๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ง๐™š๐™›๐™ก๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ ๐™ž๐™™๐™จ

๐™’๐™š ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ ๐™š๐™™ ๐™–๐™จ ๐™– ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™–๐™ข ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™œ๐™ ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™›๐™–๐™˜๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฎ ๐™˜๐™๐™–๐™ก๐™ก๐™š๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™š๐™จ

๐™๐™๐™š ๐™ ๐™ž๐™™๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™œ๐™๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™–๐™™ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ข๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™ซ๐™š๐™จ ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ก๐™ฎ

๐™๐™๐™š ๐™ ๐™ž๐™™๐™จ ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™๐™š๐™ก๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™– ๐™ก๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง ๐™™๐™ž๐™™

๐™๐™๐™š ๐™ ๐™ž๐™™๐™จ ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™™๐™š๐™–๐™ก๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ž๐™ง ๐™ค๐™ฌ๐™ฃ ๐™›๐™ง๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™—๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™›๐™ง๐™ค๐™ข ๐™ฎ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ฆ๐™ช๐™ž๐™˜๐™ ๐™š๐™ง ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ฆ๐™ช๐™ž๐™˜๐™ ๐™š๐™ง

๐™„ ๐™–๐™ข ๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฎ ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ช๐™™ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง!๐Ÿ’•

โ€œ๐˜พ๐™๐™ž๐™ก๐™™๐™ง๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ง๐™–๐™ง๐™š๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™จ๐™ช๐™˜๐™˜๐™š๐™š๐™™ ๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ก๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช, ๐™—๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ซ๐™–๐™ง๐™ž๐™–๐™—๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™จ๐™ช๐™˜๐™˜๐™š๐™š๐™™ ๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™—๐™š๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช.โ€

๐™‹๐™š๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐˜พ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š

Change yourself to change your kids

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