Posted on 1 Comment

Emotional healing – Part 1

I can’t believe it is already March – I thought I would celebrate this month by talking about my emotional healing journey…🔥

Ya know….when I speak to cancer patients at my volunteer job at the hospital, and in all the books I have read about cancer patient stories…I see a lot of suffering…not only physical but mental and spiritual too.

I have met quite a few people at the hospital that when I introduce myself and start talking to them, they tell me..

I am fine actually…I don’t need a chat…😕

I respect their wishes obviously but I leave their rooms thinking

“What the heck??You have cancer, don’t tell me you are alright? This is hard core stuff….” and this comes from someone who have been there.

We live in a world where we have to be strong all the time….being vulnerable is challenging…and I am talking about being vulnerable for real…right when you are in the middle of the mess.

When I was told I had Stage 3 Bowel cancer, I was in a bed after my 5 hours emergency surgery…

I had woken up from the surgery and was still groggy.

My husband was next to me…thanks God…I remember it was already dark outside…

The doctor who performed my surgery came in and said:

“Hey, the surgery went well. I took the tumour out. I had a good look around your internal organs and they all look good.”

So I asked him: “Any chance the tumour could be benign?”

He then said: “I am sorry…it is not…it is cancer and it is probably Stage 3 and you will need 12 sessions of chemotherapy”

I then remembering saying: “But I have 2 kids”….

The rest is a blur…

After that….I remember thinking “God, is this your way to shake me? I understand now you want my attention, you want me to listen..but are you serious?…Cancer?”

I came home for 4 weeks to recover before I was supposed to start chemotherapy.

I spent 2 weeks in a really dark place…

I planned my funeral every night…I held my tears every night before saying good night to my kids. I wailed and howled before bed in my husband arms saying: “I really want to see my kids grow up”😭

I begged God to let me live one more year, 2 more years, 3 more years…and I played videos in my mind about what it would happen with my kids at different ages if I died.😢

I know right? Horrendous….

I just couldn’t see past that…cancer meant death to me…I didn’t know anyone close enough that had been through it…

My husband’s aunty was here from the UK which was a blessing.

In the previous year, she had met her partner who was diagnosed with throat cancer shortly after they met, so she knew the beast…she kept saying to me…

”It will be ok. You will be ok”

One day my husband took the kids to the beach with his aunty and I stayed at home by myself.

I remembered feeling deeply sad not only because I had cancer…

but because I had been holding on to so much anger in my life…

I had run my body to the ground…

I didn’t look after myself….

I jeopardised my own health for my constant seeking to being a high achiever…

I had let stress take over my life…

I took my health for granted…

.I didn’t let my guard down…

I had always expected of myself to be strong…

I didn’t spend enough time appreciating life…

I hadn’t laugh enough…

I hadn’t lived enough and now I was scared…and I was hanging to my life by a thread….🤦🏼‍♀️

So I put some sad music on…and I cried….

I felt I was letting all the sadness go….

I felt I was opening up my heart…letting the guard down…

I felt it was the start of my healing….

After this episode, it was if I was ready to face whatever was in front of me….

my deep desire to survive kicked in big time…I wanted more out of this life….

I wanted to be a mum to my kids…and the most beautiful thing happened…all of sudden I wanted to survive for me…for Angelica… for myself..

.I acknowledge my inner self again….and that was just the beginning….

I write this from the bottom of my heart as I feel we keep so much hurt inside us…

We all have our own stories but ya know what I have learned is true healing starts on our hearts, on our souls.

We need to acknowledge and accept the call to heal ourselves….

Wherever you are in your life, take the time today to think…

What pain do you hold on to inside my heart?

Who are you angry with?

Why?

Can you face a past issue?

Who has hurt you?

Can you forgive them? 

The list goes on…and all I am doing is invite you to acknowledge what you have been holding on to…

you don’t have to forgive and forget and make friends with everyone that hurt in the past.

Today is about acknowledging…nothing else.

If you want to know more, follow my blog…sign up to my newsletter… because I would love to share with you what happened next…

[To be contd.]

Posted on Leave a comment

ARE YOU LETTING YOUR HEALTH SLIDE?

How well are you taking care of yourself these days? 

I could say I have had a full life so far…born and breed in Brazil…I left when I was 21…first one of a huge extended family to leave without a plan… 

Unless you can call having a Spanish passport and €1000 a plan? 🤦🏼‍♀️ 

Looking back my plan was very simple…I had a deep desire to prove to everyone you could create a life on my own terms…even though I was a woman…👩‍🎤 

Coming from a chauvinistic culture, that was a big statement at the time… 

I went to Spain first, then I lived 3 years in Belgium, 4 years in England…went traveling with my boyfriend at the time, husband now through Central and South America…ended up in New Zealand…had 2 kids and 3 years ago, we moved to Brisbane.😅 

We moved to Brisbane for my daughter’s health, she had asthma in New Zealand. She was cured when we moved to Brisbane but then I got cancer…

Bowel cancer Stage 3 to be more precise😔 

My KPIS for the day went very quickly from how many placements I could make in my recruitment role to

what I was going to eat to heal my body…

what I was going to listen to help my mind…

and what I was going to do to help my soul…

all of this wasn’t actually too hard for me…. 

BUT what it was hard to learn was… 

~to be vulnerable 

~to ask for help  

~to be dependant on my husband  

~to count on family and friends to help us… 

I had to learn to climb up from the deepest hole I could have ever dug myself into… 

Somewhere along my life, I thought to myself I was invincible…

it turned out…I wasn’t…and I am not… 

And ya know, it wasn’t easy…

I had to work hard…

I had to acknowledge my mistakes…

I had to accept responsibility and learn how to get to know myself…

and face my worst fears… 

I had to learn how to forgive not only others but myself too.😊 

Now life looks very different…

2 years after my diagnosis, I feel the healthiest and happiest I have ever been… 

I am continuously working on my physical, mental and spiritual health…I swore I would never take my health for granted anymore…

I am living up to that promise with every breath I breathe, E V E R Y   S I N G L E   D A Y 

Recently I left my 10 years recruitment career to focus on my business –

I am now a Wellness and Lifestyle coach.

I help cancer patients to regain control of their health physically, mentally and spiritually by making small changes that compound into a massive impact on their lives.

I believe we can learn from scientific research and we can learn from experiences, our own and the experience of others too… 

I have read countless books….I have listened to podcasts, YouTube videos, Ted Talks, anything body, mind and health related…anything that could help me to heal, create a new body, a new mind and a new life after my cancer diagnosis.  

I knew that whatever I did up to the moment of my cancer diagnosis was killing me and I needed some drastic changes… 

The internal work is where it all begins….I mean not only physically but mentally too – health is a ‘360-degree’ gig…you need to look at all aspects of your life…one by one… 

And through my understanding we are experiencing a health crisis… 

~most people are not fit and healthy 

~chronic diseases numbers including cancer are on the rise in every country in the world 

~heart and lung diseases, cancer and diabetes are the world’s largest killers, with an estimated 38 millions deaths annually  

~the major risk factors are tobacco use, physical inactivity, unhealthy diet and the harmful use of alcohol

ALL THINGS WE CAN CONTROL right? 

And this is what we are doing about it…. 

~we are still being bombarded and falling for foods that create disease 

~we live a lifestyle that doesn’t promote a healthy body and mind 

~we feel powerless because we think being healthy is really hard work 

~we don’t want to invest on our health because when it comes to health , everything seems expensive right?

If you want to know how you can turn your health around….you need to take action…and your first action could be get in touch with me.

I know right, scary…and it takes courage but if I changed my health around, I believe you can do it too. 

undefined undefined

Posted on Leave a comment

How I found my “why”?

I come from a culture where you just get on with things…you kinda of have to.

The government is not there to help you, corruption is the norm and money talks so people just need to get on with it.

This is what I remember about Brazil…I left 18 years ago…

In my case I can’t complain about my childhood….

I grew up in upper middle class…but as a result of that my path was already carved for me before I was born.

As a female you were bound to follow the “unread” rules of a chauvinist society where girls were expected to behave in one way and boys could do whatever they wanted….

By behaving according to society expectations, as a girl you would hopefully find yourself a ‘man’ who was from a ‘good’ family meaning same social economic level as you or better.

And after finishing school, you were expected to go to university, get married and have kids.

Part of me feels that I decided early on unconsciously that nobody was going to carve my path for me.

So I was indeed the ‘black’ sheep of the family…the first one from a large extended family who left Brazil without a plan at 21 years old.

All I had was a Spanish passport, €1000 and a strong desire and naivety that I was going to prove to everyone, one could do something else other than what was expected of them.

I lived one year in Spain, 3 years in Belgium, 4 years in England, went travelling for 1 year through Central and South Amercia, lived 6 years in New Zealand and have been in Australia for 3 years.

I never went back to Brazil ( a couple of times on holidays)…I have never asked helped from anyone.

And yes I am super proud of this as I worked very hard for it.

But it wasn’t until recently that I did an exercise with Dean Graziosi that shocked me.

The exercise is called the “Seven Levels Deep Exercise”.

You ask “why” questions 7 times, moving progressively deeper into answers.

Why do I wanna gain capabilities? Why do I want more success? Why do I wanna achieve more? Why do you want financial freedom?

For example in my case I started by asking myself:

“Why do you want to be successful in life?”

My answer was “Because I want to prove myself”

Then I asked again

“Why do you want to prove yourself?”

to which I answered…”because I want people to think I am capable, honest, independent”….

then you keep going asking ‘why’ questions for 7 times.

By question level 3, something came out of my mouth that I had never said before…I said:

“I never thought I belonged anywhere”

That hit me and my husband who was next to me, like a brick wall…

when I said it, I realized that I had never felt I belonged in Brazil either, in my own country.

Previous to that I thought I didn’t feel a sense of belonging because I lived in different countries, I was a foreigner after all but truth was I never felt I belonged to where I came from either.

And my last answer shocked me even more…

I simply said…

All I wanted was to feel safe…it wasn’t money, power, a nice house, a nice car…it was simply because I wanted to feel safe.

As I write this, I actually feel deep inside that my answers are a reflection of my life, what I have worked for, what I have always craved for…a sense of belonging, feeling accepted and safe wherever I am.

It sounds crazy that such a simple exercise can have such an impact on people’s lives.

Most people really don’t know their ‘why’. They might know on the surface level. But when you go from a surface level, from thoughts on why you wanna be successful or why you wanna something, to anchoring it in your heart with feelings and emotions, things start changing.

There may not be a more powerful motivating factor on the planet than knowing your true “why”.

When you know; in your soul, why you get up every morning and fight for your dreams, you’ll never let anything get in your way of becoming the person you are meant to be.

If that is where you are right now…you are not sure about your ‘why’, you are looking for purpose and meaning in your life, I would strongly recommend you to check out Tony and Dean’s training that started changing my life:

Click now

Posted on Leave a comment

The secret of happiness is freedom. The secret of freedom is courage.

When I was ready to get back to work after my cancer treatment, I was lucky enough to be able to work part-time hours from home.

My employer was incredibly supportive and I will be forever grateful for it.

I don’t think anything can prepare you for what is like to go back to “normal life” after a cancer diagnosis.

You, your life, your body at times, your world and your reality have changed but nothing else around you have.

You as a person have gone through a life changing event but when you get back to “normal” life everybody’s life is still the same.

As I slowly got used to my new normal again, getting back to my previous role was part of my healing.

I felt I was getting back to my old self and that came with lots of positive things: being able to actually function in a professional environment again, having a brain remembering things and functioning properly (chemo brain is a real thing and I never thought I was going to be able to remember and retain things again)

but it left me thinking….what now? Is this really me? Does this really fit with what I want for my new life? Can I get back to where I left of before cancer?

People can suffer from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) after a cancer diagnosis and it is only fair to say you stop to reevaluate your whole life after going through something so intense.

Deep down I found really hard to let go the old version of myself, I felt guilty that my employer had been so good to me…

But I also knew that recruitment is a stressful gig, people expect you to be on 24/7 as you are dealing with a pretty important part of their lives, their job, their money…

To be honest I was scared to get back into it…what if I get too stressed again and the cancer comes back? What if I stop looking after myself because I am constantly working and the cancer comes back?

After trying for a while I just couldn’t…. There was a little voice inside me sending me to a different direction… in search for something more….I felt deep down I needed to do something more meaningful.

But how do you leave a job without knowing what to do after going through a major health crisis?

In addition to that, I had also worked on a pretty strict health plan for myself that I followed and still do since cancer: I exercise daily, I meditate, I eat healthily (everything is home made) and I go to bed early.

And all of that takes time and effort…any additional stress or change wasn’t ideal just after what I had just gone through.

So in search for answers and a more meaningful life, I started listening to lots of successful people who talked about mindset, personal growth, people who broke barriers, who didn’t listen to the naysers and used resourcefulness to reach that next level of life…

They were influencers, motivation speakers, people who were living their lives in their own terms.

I then came across Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi….

if you don’t know Tony Robbins – he is a life coach, author and philanthropist. He has helped millions of people to achieve a healthier, wealthier, more fulfilling, passionate and purposeful life.

Dean Graziosi is an extremely successful entrepreneur who came from very humble beginnings.

I felt I had found 2 people who were real despite their success and power. Their message spoke to my heart and instantly resonated with me….

So I started binge listening to them…every day, whenever I could…

My mindset started changing slowly, my beliefs about who I was and what I could do started changing and slowly I started creating new thought patterns, new habits…

Slowly I started building up on my quite confidence, on my courage to think about a different life, the possibility of a life on my terms…

As with my diet changes, exercise and meditation, I kept at it, listening to more of Tony and Dean each day as part of my health plan too….this time was about my personal growth and professional life…

And this is how I came across my deep desire to help people regain control of their own health after going through something so traumatic like cancer, it became so strong inside me that I felt I couldn’t just leave it.

I picked myself up from a pretty deep hole and I invested so much on my physical and mental health that I was able to create a new body, mind and life for myself.

If I did it, anyone could do it too.

Throughout my recruitment career, I met with so many people that were unhappy about their professional life.

They were either too stressed or spending 40 hours per week doing what they did not enjoy doing and that is not what we are in this life for.

I have experienced life is too short…but life is a wonder and for those of us who dare to go a little deeper, there is so much to unravel, so much more…

So if you are feeling you are not living a life on your terms, or if you spend the majority of your time doing what DOES NOT bring you joy and happiness…I would encourage you to listen to that same video I did about one year ago. If anything, you will come out with something or 2, 3 things that are valuable…really valuable to your life.

You can watch the video by clicking on the link below:

Click here

This training and the buying into the KBB course enabled me to start steering my ship at the right direction, it showed me how to bring more passion, more purpose and more success into my life!

And I know that this could show you how to bring more passion, more purpose and more success into your life!

This is not only about my professional life, this is about my personal and spiritual life too.

You see as a recruiter I have always thrived on helping people to be happier at their jobs, on helping them with their problems at work, on finding them the job of their dreams and finding my clients their dream team member.

That was what success look like for me at work…

Now I feel my purpose is a little bigger…it is helping people to reshape their whole lives, not only their lives at work but their personal lives too…

We get bombarded with promises of a perfect life daily on social media… where you will earn millions overnight and never get old if you wear the newest face cream in the market…but we all know deep down life doesn’t quite work like that.

I hope for you…you take the time to watch this video….to take the time to invest on yourself…and on the potential of living a life on your terms.

Don’t miss this opportunity….this has literally transform my life.

Posted on Leave a comment

Are you living the life you desire?

We are fortunate to live in the information age and as much as it can be overwhelming sometimes….we have all the information we want on our door step….on the click of our fingers…but yet I feel most of us keep doing what we know…what it is easy….what it is comfortable.

When we look at someone who is eating healthy, exercising daily, looking after their health, we automatically think: this is impossible, I can’t fit all of these healthy habits in my day, I am too busy…

What we forget is “Life is easy if you live it the hard way, and hard if you live it the easy way”

What I mean is, it is easy to wake up in rush,

grab a coffee and a donut,

listen to the news (which fills you up with negativity) on your way to work,

work through another day in a job that you don’t love but pay the bills,

grab a burger and chips for lunch (after all you got an ice cream for free at your favorite fast food restaurant),

survive through the afternoon feeling tired and over it,

flick through social media (and everybody’s post advertising their perfect life) on the way back home,

get a take way for dinner,

drink a couple of glasses of wine while watching rubbish TV and go to bed.

What it is hard is wake up early enough to do 45 minutes exercise every day,

prepare yourself a healthy shake for breakfast or anything that is healthy,

listen to some positive youtube videos or an ebook on the way to work,

find joy and excitement in your job or keep working on a side project that excites you during your break,

eat the salad you prepared the night before for lunch,

listened to an ebook on your way back home,

prepare a healthy dinner for you and your family,

spend some time talking to your partner/friend or anyone that lives with you about their day,

go to bed early so you can get up early tomorrow.

The easy route will take you on a path of putting on the weight you don’t want,

feeling ailments that you didn’t plan to have,

feeling stressed about everything,

feeling unfulfilled with life,

feeling unhealthy physically and mentally.

The hard route will take you on a path of feeling fit, healthy and strong.

You will be able to find joy and purpose in your daily job and if not, you will have the mental and physical strength to seek for another solution.

You will feel you are constantly growing as a person.

You will feel you are constantly working on yourself, or creating a better version of yourself, a better life.

I want to share with you a video that really motivated me to become someone who fits more the scenario 2 person rather than the scenario 1 person.

I have been listened to Dean Graziosi for quite a while now. He is a multiple New York Best Selling Author, creator of multiple 9 figure companies and one of the best real estate and marketers in the world today.

I love his passion, his humbleness and genuine manner, his values…but you are probably asking yourself why Dean?

I came across Dean in my search to listen to inspiring people, positive talks, people that challenge my thinking, people that encourage me to be a better version of myself and I thought he was just the best out there….

In one of Dean’s videos, I learned that experts say we spend our life in 3 different scenarios:

1.  You are either doing things in your life that irritates you: relationships, people, projects, routines – they don’t make you feel good, they drain your energy.

2.  Or you do things you are ok at, you feel ok about it because you are used to doing them.

3.   And lastly you also spend time doing things that you want to do all the time in your life, things that fascinate you, they fill you up with energy. They excited you, they light you up.

If you have to put a % next to each scenario in your life right now, what percentage of your time do you spend in number 1,2,3?

I would love for you to watch the whole video:

Watch until the end because that is where the best bit is.

We need to stop living an average life – All we need is a mindset shift…Change your mindset…change your life…

Posted on Leave a comment

How are your kids doing through your cancer journey?

I went to my GP last year to get my little girl checked.

After everything we went through after my cancer diagnosis, I wasn’t sure she has got over mummy loosing her hair (she still askes me when my hair is going to grow long again) and mummy not being well.

Valentina was 4 when I was diagnosed with Stage 3 Bowel Cancer, she is now 5.

We read her books and explained that mummy was going to get “strong medicine” called chemo to make mummy better. We were open about my treatment and kept everything at her level of maturity so she could understand everything that was going on.

We would also always ask her if she had any questions.

She drew pictures of me and her at daycare during my treatment every single day.

I was sick in the pictures and she was right by my side. I was always happy though and she was happy too.

She would also played with her stuffy toys and pretended they were sick.

She is a very inquisitive girl and 8-9 months post treatment, she began asking my husband lots of questions about death.

When are you and mummy going to die?

How are you going to die?

I don’t like that I don’t know when you and mummy are going to die

So I thought maybe we should take her to see a psychologist.

We took her to the psychologist and she told the psychologist straight up in the first 5 minutes she was left with the psychologist…that she wanted mummy to grow her hair long….that she was worried about what it would happen to her and to her brother in case mummy and daddy died… and this is why she couldn’t get to sleep at night easily.

By the way I wasn’t in the room when she spoke to the psychologist. I spent sometime speaking to the psychologist before Valentina then Valentina had her turn by herself.
When the psychologist got me back into the room and told me exactly what Valentina had told her. I held up my tears…I couldn’t believe she was worried about what it would happen to her and her brother?

She was only 5…

So the psychologist talked to us both and clarify to both of us what Valentina had just said and asked Valentina to correct her if she was wrong.

The psychologist reiterated and confirmed that mummy was growing her hair but normally those things takes time.

The psychologist also told Valentina that she shouldn’t worry about what would happen to her and her brother as mummy and daddy were fine right now.

And in the unlikely event of something happening to mummy and daddy, mummy and daddy would put something in place in the rare event that something was to happen with them and that was something for mummy and daddy to worry about.

Valentina came out of the psychologist practice happier.

It looked like she had lifted a weight off her shoulders.

She went to sleep quickly that night and by herself.

Since then, I took her back to the same psychologist…but Valentina talked about other things and nothing to do with my sickness anymore.

I felt it was so worth to take her to the psychologist as I didn’t even know and probably wouldn’t know that she was worrying about what would happen to her and her brother in case something happened to me and her dad?

So if you have a little one, maybe it is worthy getting them some help. Sometimes we feel we have been honest, open and clear with them but it takes someone from the outside to really get through their heads.

Kids are so resilient though…they are incredible…but they are also human beings that have feelings, complex feelings sometimes and as hard as it is for us to express our thoughts, it will be hard for them to express what they think too.

Posted on Leave a comment

December…

It is almost Xmas and you can feel in air the business of season…people running around to catch up once more before the end of the year…parties to go to right, left and centre and many opportunities for us to fill our bodies with sugar, alcohol and if you ask me, a load of crap.

It is also the month we have to deal with relationships and people that we don’t feel like dealing with…things that don’t serve us…people who have hurt us in the past, or people who created pain in our lives. It is stressful but we feel we need to do it because after all it is Christmas.

But what if this year we stayed a little more vigilant?

Instead of binge eating and drinking in every opportunity, we only did 1 out of 2 opportunities?

What if instead of dealing with the same painful relationships as we have always dealt with or were forced to deal with, we faced them and developed different ones with those same people?

What if this year we at least start the process? The process of healing and letting go of things that don’t serve us anymore.

I used to drink a lot…I used to love a party ( I am not saying that I don’t love a party anymore because I do)…but no, I don’t drink anymore. And yes it took me cancer to make this decision…

But I am not saying you should stop drinking but we can be a little bit more vigilant and caring towards our bodies and ourselves…and being vigilant could mean not drink as much in every opportunity, or not drink at all in some of the parties. (I can imagine you have several parties to go to during December so not drinking in one of them, it won’t kill you – trust me.)

Being vigilant for our health’s sake is making small changes that count.

They don’t need to be extreme ones (like stop drinking altogether) but they can be small ones (like drinking less etc).

So I leave you with that thought?

What can you do this December to be vigilant with your mental and physical health?

And don’t forget every little bit counts…be gentle to your body, mind and soul.

I am a living proof that small changes compound to massive impact on our health. Trust me, it is so worth it.

Posted on Leave a comment

Can you commit to one change per week?

Today I experienced some of the benefits I have gained since I started my health journey 1.5 years ago after my cancer diagnosis.

After my bowel cancer diagnosis, I committed myself to changing everything in my life, physically and mentally.

I thought that whatever I did to the point of my cancer diagnosis didn’t serve me as otherwise I wouldn’t end up with Stage 3 Bowel cancer.

I had a CT this morning and during treatment I read a lot about how anxious people get before their checks after treatment is finished. It is called scanaxiety.

I made a commitment to myself that I wasn’t going to let anxiety take over my life before every check as I knew I would have to go through a lot of them.

This morning I woke up at 5:30 am and went for a nice swim.

I came home and did a meditation (it is more like a priming exercise to prepare yourself for a successful day – you should check it out – look for “Tony Robbins’s priming exercise” on Youtube or click on: https://youtu.be/oig47qPc3y0

Then I took the kids to school.

On the way to hospital, I listened to some more Tony Robbins.

Yes I can’t get enough of Tony Robbins…but part of my health plan is to constantly feed my mind with goodness and positivity. And his message is just perfect for that every day of the week.

Throughout the whole morning, I had focussed on drinking lots of water as I knew I had to have a cannula put in…so the nurse started the procedure but she couldn’t get the cannula in and had to try my other arm…

I felt the anxiety coming towards me like a tsunami so I exercise some of the habits I have been establishing in the last 1.5 years…

I focussed on my breathing and I started thinking about what I am grateful for.

I thought I was grateful to be in Australia, in a first world country where I get access to an amazing health system.

I thought how grateful I was to be here, alive, breathing….

Before I knew, the procedure was done so I walked out of the hospital.

I grab a nice coffee and a healthy snack (it was coconut yoghurt with cacao and chia seeds).

Then I realised that I have been doing meditation for 1.5 years now (I normally use the app Headspace)…I have been practicing gratitude for the same amount of time.

Part of me feels am I getting any benefits by practicing gratitude or meditation?

But today I truly felt the benefits. I was able to overcome my fear…I was able to stop my thoughts from going crazy…I was able to control my mind.

You know changes are challenging and we all avoid them because it is either too hard or we tell ourselves a story to justify why we can make changes…

On top of that, results don’t come overnight and that in itself put people off from making changes in the first place.

But today I felt that every little meditation I did in the last 1.5 years, every time I sat down and thought what I was grateful for….it was all worth…worth my time…my learning…the changes and the person I am slowly becoming.

If you know deep down, you need to make changes on your life, don’t wait any longer because you are scared to fail…or because you feel it is too hard.

Put a plan in place…work on one thing at a time…set small goals that are achievable.

Don’t expect results overnight…enjoy the ride.

It is all part of the journey, the learning itself is what shapes you…the person you want to become.

So…what is the change you are going to commit to today? This week? This month?

Posted on Leave a comment

How is your sleep?

I remember listening to a doctor’s talk during chemotherapy…he talked about 6 things we should all focus on to achieve good health and I was really surprised that he talked about SLEEP being one of them.

Then I looked back at the 6 years prior to my cancer diagnosis.

I had my first child…he was a terrible sleeper and I breast fed him for 1.5 years so not much sleep happened to me.

Then as soon as I finished breast feeding him, I got pregnant again. I was sick for 9 months, had the worst pregnancy ever.

I also breastfed my daughter for 1.5 years so again my sleep was interrupted for all that time.

When my daughter was about 1.5 years old, she started developing symptoms of asthma.

I went from going back to work after having a second child, to being crazy worry about my daughter as she had several asthma episodes. I would either be at the hospital with her or I would be sleeping with her so I could hear her breathing.

So there wasn’t much sleep happening for me…and my body was tired…exhausted.

After the first chemo session, I remember sleeping for 4 to 5 days. I would only get up to eat.

My body was exhausted….so I really focussed on having a healthy sleep routine and in respecting my body during chemotherapy so I could get as much rest as it needed.

Fast forward one year after treatment, I am still sticking to a healthy sleep routine….

I go to bed at 9 pm (yes it is early but I need it), I turn my phone off by 8 pm and I rarely watch TV.

I drink a herbal tea and I chat to my husband just before bed (he probably would say I don’t) instead of being on a device or watching TV. When I don’t follow this routine, I promise I feel it in my sleep as I don’t sleep as well as when I do.

So why sleep is so important?

We release a hormone called Melatonin when we get to deep sleep. This hormone works like our internal clock and regulates our circadian rhythm (blood pressure and some research has found this hormone on our reproductive and intestinal organs too).

Research has also found in research that not even animals can survive without sleep so why should we?

In a society where we are constantly being told we don’t achieve enough, we need to work harder, we don’t have that perfect life that everybody else has…we accept that we are constantly stressed and that we don’t have enough time in our days so we compromise our sleep.

Listening to Dr.Stasha Gominak (she is a sleep doctor), she explained that it is during sleep our bodies heal…it is during sleep our bodies can focus on fixing everything is broken.

On top of that, our bodies are so clever that it keeps a backlog of things to be fixed when we don’t sleep.

Can you believe that?

I am blown away by how clever our bodies are and it makes so much sense when I look at what happened to me.

I was so sleep deprived before my cancer diagnosis that my body didn’t get the opportunity to fix anything.

So what about you?

Are you focussing on establishing a healthy sleep routine?

Posted on Leave a comment

Why are we so disconnected?

I read everywhere we are disconnected from nature…we are living more isolated lives than ever.

We are disconnected to ourselves in the constant business of life.

I actually felt the disconnect from myself, when I was told I had cancer.

How could I have walked away from myself so much that I didn’t notice the cancer growing inside me? How could I not have done something about it before it got so bad?

When I first sat with myself in silence, I felt the pain I put my body through….I felt the abuse, the neglect over the years.

I have never been addicted to drugs or alcohol but I have done a fair bit of binge drinking so I can say I drank a lot in my life, I probably ate too much processed food too and if you ask me, I took my health for granted. I thought I was invincible!

I have never had any serious health problems except some mild asthma and respiratory allergies when I was little but it is fair to say I didn’t really think too much about what I was putting inside my body, my health wasn’t really a priority for me.

And when it comes to looking after my mind, I never did any meditation or sat quietly with myself and the concept of just chilling has always been really difficult for me.

Then all of sudden, I realised that I wasn’t treating my body with the respect that it deserves…I never thought to listen to it and I thought my body could just take it (alcohol, bad food, lack of exercise etc) until it just didn’t.

If you are feeling disconnected from yourself or if you don’t even know what this means…I can try to explain to you what I feel know….

I feel I treat myself as a friend, as someone who I love and care, I feel I want to spend time with myself. I feel I want to look after myself, my body and mind. I am happy when I meditate, when I do my yoga practice or when I prepare a yummy salad or dinner that is full of goodness that I know will nourish my body.

Does this explain what being connected to oneself means?

I hope it does…and if you are not feeling connected to yourself…just remember it is never to late to do something about it.