Once upon a time someone told me I should teach people how to be disciplined
I was born with this “annoying” habit as my husband would say
Of being disciplined
𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞?
𝟭 – 𝗕𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘁
You can’t become disciplined at something all the time you tell yourself a bunch of excuses
“I actually don’t drink that much” when you are drinking alcohol 4 times out 7 for example which is more than half of a week
“I don’t eat that much sugar” when you can never say no to a treat at the office, at home, at party etc. Before you know, you are having a treat every single day.
Why would you stop drinking?
Why would you stop eating sugar if you don’t see the need to right?
When you are ready to be honest with yourself
You start taking empowered action towards being disciplined about the things you want to change.
𝟮 – 𝗪𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲
When you write things down,
You make it real.
It is almost like telling the universe or God
“I am doing this”
It is a way you can keep yourself accountable.
Again by telling someone, they will keep you accountable
When you see them, they are going to ask you and mostly likely
You don’t want to look like a fool.
𝟯 -𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻 (𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿)
After you write your goals down,
you can write it down 3 things you are going to do daily towards your goal
If you want a proper plan, write when and how you are going to do it.
Don’t leave it up to chance or in the air.
These days I meditate for 20 minutes.
𝟱- 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺
Discipline is built over a life time.
There is no end destination.
You get stronger physically because you start exercising daily then you move to the next level
You put a new plan in place to push your body a bit further and you keep going.
It is about thinking that whatever you are doing today, it is making you healthier, happier and more fulfilled for the long term.
𝟲 -𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴
I asked myself daily during my whole chemotherapy treatment
Angelica, do you want to live or die?
Harsh but I needed to do it some days to get myself out of bed.
We can easily forget about how uncomfortable it is to live in
Our physical and emotional discomfort creep up on us slowly
And as adaptable human beings, we get used to them.
Remind yourself each morning
I don’t want to feel exhausted daily anymore
I don’t want to have a cancer recurrence (that is my reminder here)
I don’t want to feel anxious
You get the gist here right?
You are the only one who knows how uncomfortable it is to live in your body and mind
therefore you are the only one who can remind yourself of it.
Once you remind yourself if it,
You empower yourself to doing something about it daily.
𝟳 – 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗻 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
A lot of people take action daily based on how they feel
“Today I feel tired so I won’t exercise.”
“Today I feel stressed so I will eat chocolate.”
If you lead your life by how you feel,
You will probably sit in the sofa all day eating cookies.
As nice as this sounds, after one month of doing that
You will feel physically sick and probably mentally too.
Stop waiting to “feel like” to take action,
When you have your plan, execute on it daily.
𝟴 -𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻 𝗕 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗼𝗿 𝘂𝗻𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀
Life is fluid and things happen all the time that are unexpected.
Again you can’t stop practicing your daily habits every time something happens
You can’t stop practicing habits that serve you every time something disrupts your routine
You need to have a back up plan
That you can implement when things don’t go according to plan.
That could be doing a shorter exercise routine.
Cooking double from time to time
To always have a healthy meal in the freezer.
𝟵 – 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗼𝗿 𝗼𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵
When someone else makes you accountable
You tend to stick to the plan because you want to do well
You don’t want to tell that person some ridiculous excuse as to why you didn’t do it
So you basically get stuff done.
On top of that, when you have someone guiding you
They can help you with a different perspective
Which is very valuable when we are trying to change.
Because the truth is everyone gets stuck and
Nobody makes it on their own.